please help me

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2004
please help me
2
Thu, 03-06-2008 - 5:19pm

I have been divorced for awhile. This has to do with my ex and his wife. I don't even know where to begin other than I feel I am at the end. I have avoided posting on here

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2007
In reply to: doxigal
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 12:11pm

I am so sorry for your children, there father is an idiot.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2004
In reply to: doxigal
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 4:00pm

Thank you Rachel for replying. I know that my case is not typical of what is on the boards here. I find it difficult and somewhat crushing that I still can be affected by him or his trashy new wife. Honestly, if I didn't have kids, I wouldn't care at all. But to know that they are so hurt by his and her actions, I feel helpless. And sometimes, responsible (I shouldn't have left him) even though I couldn't hardly take life with him anymore.


I didn't say in my first post that I am remarried to a real live human being. He is intelligent, thoughtful, moral and sincere. And he is good to my kids. They love and respect him. I know, personally, what it is like to have a parent abandon you once the marriage is over so I know how deep it cuts. I just am dumbstruck by the malicious words and acts from these two to my kids. It really floors me.


And I wish more than anything that it didn't bother me. But it does. I pray about it alot, talk to friends, my hubby, but still.....


Anyway, thank you Rachel. I am trying to hang in here....btw, they do have counseling....they seem to cope better than me?? 'cept for my youngest...it's still hard.