Please help me

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Registered: 12-08-2004
Please help me
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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 5:21pm

I am going through a very nasty divorce and visitation battle. I have placement, but it is joint custody. My stxh has an alcohol problem and he is not able to drink 24 hours before or when he has our children. His mom came and pick the kids up today and I didn't ask why, just figured he was late getting home from his GF house. She lives over an hour away, didn't think much about it. I was on the phone today with a mutal friend and she told me why he didn't pick the kids up. He went with a bunch of people to an event for the weekend and all they did was party. Then I find out that his GF drinks as much as he does. I don't know what to do. He has an alcohol evaluation on Tuesday ordered by the court, so I don't know much about how that works. Do I call the police and have them waiting here for him tomorrow, do I not say anything because of the eval. I called and left a message with my lawyer, but they aren't open on Sundays so I won't hear from them until after he drops the kids off. I really don't know what to do. I am trying to protect my very young kids, but I don't know how.

PLEASE help me!!!
Broken

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: broken28
Tue, 08-14-2007 - 3:14pm

How did the drop off go.... did you talk to your attorney?.... Did he go to the alcohol evaluation?


Aside from all that... if he had his mom pick the kids up.... that's better than him showing up and flaking off as not having had anything to drink for the 24 hours prior, but all in all, it will be his loss.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 12-08-2004
In reply to: broken28
Tue, 08-14-2007 - 5:06pm

The drop off went fine. I didn't say anything to him, and he didn't to me. That is the way they are unless he is mad about something. I did call my attorney and I call the law gaurdian as well. As far as I know, he went to his eval today, but they only check BAC so it wouldn't show up either. He will not be honest and I am sure he passed his eval with flying colors. He does not admit to it at all. I am just so confused as what to do, but I guess time will tell.

Thanks,
Broken

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: broken28
Tue, 08-14-2007 - 10:23pm
Documentating things will be your best friend....

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~