PLEASE help...DS out of control
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PLEASE help...DS out of control
| Sat, 06-28-2008 - 11:56am |
Please can someone help me.My 3 yr old DS is out of control and I am absolutely at the end of my thread.
His father and I separated 2.5 months ago. The first month DS was ok but for the second month he has been getting increasingly aggressive and angry.
He is fine during the day, but the minute I get home after work he starts

Hi there...
I can understand where you are, as my xh and I separated when my son was about 18 months old and there are plenty of times where he has been out of control...
I have had my glasses ripped off my face and twisted till they broke... I have had my hair pulled so hard that it took me to the floor of Target and the security guard had to help my Mom pull my son off of me... I have had him threaten me, that he wanted to kill me, stab me with a knife and watch me bleed... those are lowlights of the worst of the worst... but just two weeks ago, he melted down in the grocery store and while I would have liked to have left, I needed stuff for dinner, into the cart he went and a smaller hand basket held our groceries while he thrashed around in the cart, while I resolved to keep my cool and get through it (which is never easy).
I'm wondering a couple of things... I notice that meltdowns happen more often when my son is hungry or tired (or worse yet, both)... Even though he is 6, he will still sometimes take a nap after a particularly exhausting day... is your son napping anymore?
You know, I thought it was just me. I separated from my STBXH in January, and he moved out in April. Our child is 2-1/2 and has been going through the types of tantrums you describe. They definitely occur more when he's tired or hungry - and he's just out of control! One occurred at about 12:00 at night, and nearly culminated with me throwing him in the car and dropping him off at grandma's house. I had literally had enough of him following me and hitting me and kicking me.
My latest attempt at "solving" the problem has been to yell at him quite loudly, "NO HITTING MAMA!!!" which seems to make him burst into tears and forget what he was doing (mostly). It's about my last effort before I call a child psych in. The behavior is NOT acceptable, and it needs to stop now. I too have tried holding, physically restraining him, walking away, time outs, and just about anything else you can think of.
First let me say that while my kids didn't do this type of behavior, my neice did, and I was her primary care taker.