Positive Results from Seperation?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2007
Positive Results from Seperation?
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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 10:02am
Anyone have a positive result from seperating? Or is it just postponing the inevitable?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2003
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 12:42pm

My STBX and I didn't do a trial separation, but I did a lot of research into the concept prior to leaving. I have recommended a book called "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" to a number of people here because I thought it laid out the idea of structured trial separation very well. It may be worth a read- I'm sure you can get it at your local library.

In the end, I think the key to reconciliation after separation is a desire on both sides to work it out. Lots of counselling, plenty of communication, and patience with the process seem to be necessary components. GL with whatever you choose to do.