Post-divorce personal changes

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Post-divorce personal changes
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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 11:50am

I was just wondering if anyone has / had gone any extreme personal changes, post-D? I was thinking about it this weekend, and I've decided that after the divorce is final, and I have a settlement (I'd like to just sell STBX my half of our storage business), I'd like to go for breast reduction surgery. Actually, I'd looked into this 2 years ago, and the doc told me that my insurance wouldn't cover it, as the minimum tissue removed was less than he'd need to reomve for me, so it would be elective... I've been wanting to do this since I was 15; developed early and was in a 34C when I was 14, so no time like post-divorce, right?

Any thoughts?




Edited 11/28/2005 11:52 am ET by susieyippin
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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 2:28pm

Considering such big changes is very common post-divorce and post-break-up. If you were considering making a change that you were NOT much interested in before, then I would suggest you wait another year and see how you felt then.

Do your homework and know what you are facing. Are you a person who heals well, and tolerates anesthesia easily? Is it true that if you gain weight in future, you may find yourself back at the same cup-size once more? Have you exhausted all non-surgical methods? Best of luck!

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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 3:51pm
I've wanted to have a reduction for over 20 years... It's causing pain in my neck and jaw... I have to wear a bra every waking moment of the day... I did email a local plasttic surgeon, and when I do have the surgery, I'm going to have it done in a least a year, and possibly in 2007. It's a definite... mentally-wise. Nothing I can really do, non-surgically, exercises won't help, losing weight doesn't help, it's just excessive weight and tissue. The dang things just get in the way a lot!
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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 8:45pm

WOW, that sounds terrible to have to deal with. Personally, I am a small B cup, so it's hard to me to even fathom how painful it is.

If it's something you really wanted for a long time and now the settlement allows you to do it, I say go for it.

After my separation, I wanted to travel out of the country, and I did! It was a wonderful, amazing feeling to accomplish something you have waited to do for so long.

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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 9:31pm

When I purchased my last bra, it was a tight 34DD. I'm going for a new fitting next week... I'm sure it'll be a bit bigger. I tell ya, I don't know how people like Pam Anderson can stand having such HUGE breasts-- their backs must be killing them! I know I get an ache in the center of my back sometimes, and it's usually when I need to upgrade my bra.

Anyway, I think it'll help not only with the physical issues, but along with self-esteem. I'm progressing daily in that area, but this breast issue has been a a problem I've dealt with since I was 12, and I just turned 38 last week...




Edited 11/28/2005 9:31 pm ET by susieyippin
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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 11:39pm

Well sure! We all go through changes.


I lost 85 pounds. ( yes I said 85...lol and in a very short time too! ) I fit into clothes that I did before I even met my XH, 6-7 years ago )


I also take care of myself, I got my nose pierced, do my hair everyday, take care of my skin and wear makeup. I wear nice clothes, care about what I look like and I don't worry about my body and hair and makeup....I guess I have gained self confidence.


I also went back to school, got a part time job and am working my a$$ off. I would have never done that if I was still married.


I am HAPPY. I am in a fullfilling relationship that requires NOTHING extra. NO WORRY..... no stress. We are happy together and happy with OUR 3 children ( even though 2 are by my X hubby, 3rd is my boyfriends baby, our baby together. ** SURPRISE! )


Lots and lots of personal changes.


As far as the surgery goes, honey, I would have A LOT done if I had the money and time. I would have lypo on my but and thighs to make me actually HAVE a rear. I would have the stretch marks lightened and lypo on my belly. Losing all that weight made my belly "hangy".... I could do without that, but nothing is painful. I don't lose sleep over it. I say go for it! If it physically bothers you... go for it.


Good luck!


Hugs,


Angelena















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Registered: 11-23-2005
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 6:04pm
That sounds like a good idea. I have thought of things like that too. When my divorce is final, and after we sell the house, I was thinking of getting a breast lift since they got saggy after I lost some weight. I think it's important to do something for yourself after all of the stress and emotion of a divorce.
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