Pre Trial Conference ???? - need help!
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| Sun, 06-25-2006 - 11:08pm |
Hi Everyone,
We both have attorneys, have been working thru a mediator, but now things have stalled with the mediator because STBX has continually refused to provide financial information. He took total control over everything financially and hid (and spent) a lot of our joint money. My attorney informed me that we have a pre-trial conference on July 17th.
Also, he has not paid a dime in any assistance and he filed for divorce from me last July. My attorney sent his attorney an email for him to start sending me some child support and both he and his attorney have ignored my attorney. My daughter is living 50/50 between the two of us and my son has now decided to live with me full time. He has been with me for almost 2 months straight now and refuses to spend a night with his father because his father has been so cruel to him. He is 17 years old and I need financial help from his father!! A couple weeks back he even told his son that he wants him to live with him part time so he won't have to pay me nearly as much child support. This only made my son feel more guilty and angry.
At this pre-trial conference, is this where the judge will order that he provide disclosure so we can get closer to a settlement?
Will he be ordered to pay me child support? (He makes more $$ than me.)
Once pre-trial is done, then will there be a trial date set at that point?
I have not been able to negotiate ANYTHING with him. He still refuses to let me have what I have requested out of the house.
I could use any suggestions or help.
I am emotionally extremely tired and am desperately wanting this insanity to end.
Thanks,
Belinda

Hi there, Belinda.
I wish I had a good answer for you. Laws vary so much from state to state. I know in CT, a judge can order almost anything during a pre-trial conference - temporary support, he could compel your STBX to disclose his financial information, etc. The best thing to do is ask your attorney what to expect at the pretrial. I know we all hate to run up those minutes with the attorney, but in this case, I think it would be worth it.
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Belinda,
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Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Hi Belinda! Sorry to hear you're dealing with this nonsense, like we need anything else to deal with.
I'm not an expert as I am in the process of divorce myself, I have a first court date of 7/24. My attorney told me, at that time, the judge will order STBX to pay up! This will mean assistance with some/maybe all the household bills, and possibly a portion of the child support (which in my case, has not been calculated yet). One purpose of this first date, as I was told by my attorney, is to see that the household is being maintained and the children are living at "similiar" standards (we are not be any means loaded with money, but my attorney told me the children are used to living a certain way and the judge/courts like to see the children aren't shellshocked anymore than they already have been).
And yes, I believe there will be ANOTHER court date set at that time or shortly thereafter. That is my understanding anyway. To finalize things I guess.
Like I said, I'm not an expert, I just thought I'd share what I was told.
I wish you the very best. You and your son will be in my thoughts!
Hugs,
Jenn in CT
Jennifer
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