Putting the house on the market.

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Registered: 06-18-2003
Putting the house on the market.
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Mon, 06-05-2006 - 9:26am

We're putting our house on the market today...for the second time. We put it on the market back in July of last year, but in August when we got an offer, I froze and didn't want to sell it. However, WE MUST SEPERATE and we can't afford for either one of us to live in the house alone. I'm so sad...I don't want to leave my house. I know it's just a material posession, but it's *comfortable*. How do I explain to my 4 year old what's happening? I still don't know where we'll be living. I have a job here, but I'm trying to get a job in another state to "get back home". My future is still so unclear. How do you get through the fact that you're losing a house that you built together? A home that you brought you first born home to? I'm really struggling with all of this. I'm calling a lawyer today to get input on a seperation agreement.

I'm feeling so alone and unsure of my future right now. How did you all get through it?

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 06-05-2006 - 11:25am

Try to remember a home is what you make of it, a house is just that, a house.

You can make any place your home. Its hard to let go of a dream, a house is just a place, a home is what you make of it, you know that.

Hugs I know that this is a difficult time for you but you have your health, your little one is all the "home" you need in my opinion...hug that little one whenever you feel like you are losing "home".

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-05-2006 - 11:38am

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I fought tooth and nail to keep my house. I saved it while my ex was unemployed (for years), I saved it through our bankruptcy, and I saved it during our divorce (I got to keep it and owed him nothing for it). But you know what? As much as I love my home, now that it's all mine I want a fresh start and I've sold it (closed on it last week) and I've bought a different house out of state. I am very sentimental too, but like the pp said, it's a house and you take the memories with you. (((HUGS TO YOU)))

Mel

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Registered: 12-31-2003
Mon, 06-05-2006 - 12:51pm

Hey there,

I just wanted to let you know you're not alone, I have a similar situation. Just put my house on the market this weekend and I'm trying to move back to Texas as soon as possible. This house is comfortable, like you say, but it has bad memories for me now. While I was cleaning for the real estate listing, I found it very liberating to throw out old things so I can start making room for the new good things that I hope will happen in my life after I'm able to move.

Go "home" and be where you belong, with your support system, and you will be able to build a new and better home for your new life!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-05-2006 - 8:13pm
I know, we just listed our house last Friday. We built it last fall and just moved in during Christmas weekend. It is my dream home. I picked out everything. Guess what? I'm all for selling. Why keep it? The split of the equity will be more helpful to me to pay down debt and have a financial cushion than keeping it. We are in a great neighborhood, heck, I'm checking with the builder to buy a house just two blocks down from us. Isn't THAT crazy? Try not to get too attached to the walls, floors and ceiling. A home is anywhere you are with your children. Good luck.