Question about NOT feeling burned out...

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Question about NOT feeling burned out...
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Fri, 03-03-2006 - 12:27pm

OK, I was reading an article on ivillage about being a single parent and avoiding burn out. When I thought about it, I realize I feel FAR less burned out now than I did when I was with my STBX. I used to be so exhausted ALL the time. After a 50+ hour work week, I would come home, clean up messes, take care of our insane yard, cooked, did laundry, etc. Also, I almost never got a break from our son. Now, I love my son dearly, but everyone needs a break now and then!

Now, I actually get some short breaks from parenting, and I feel totally refreshed from it. Also, I am not completely burned out being responsible for the care of a house and crazy yard (our home was on an insane incline and it would take me HOURS to mow the lawn).

My STBX goes on about how much he dislikes his life now, and I almost feel a little guilty for being so much happier with my life. Of course he was happier! He had a live-in housemaid who also worked full-time, and took care of our child while he got to go out and do whatever he wanted constantly. So overall...I feel better! Anyone else feel this way?

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Avatar for momtojoeybear
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-06-2006 - 9:39pm

I can get to that burned out place quite easily, but I believe in my case it is due to the fact that I really do NOT get help from xh, who lives several states away. He has managed to come to visit his son twice in the past six months, which may not sound like much, but is better than all of last year when he only saw him once...

I do rely on my support systems, my xils, to whom I'm still close, as well as my mom... I do feel relief in some ways though...

My xh was extremely poor with money.... he would go through it before he even had it, consequently I was left to cover all of our expenses on a single (and small) income... Now, my bills have dropped, I've paid off my student loans and my car and now am looking at getting my credit card paid off... and have less than $1000 to pay off there, so I feel like I'm becoming more myself with each bill I pay off...

*hugs*

Julie

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Registered: 02-09-2005
Tue, 03-07-2006 - 5:05am
I also think the chores/homework etc become less exhausting when you don't have to watch someone with lying on the couch watching TV or snoring while you are doing them.
Avatar for mom2maggie
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Registered: 05-29-2003
Tue, 03-07-2006 - 8:52am
Yes! Yes! Yes! I can't say my life is better, but it is definately easier.

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