question b-day party

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Registered: 06-09-2006
question b-day party
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Wed, 07-05-2006 - 7:49am

Hi guys I have a question. My twin girls are turning 6 this weekened and I am having a kids party for them. It is my stbx weekened but he is letting me have them for a few hours that day.When I was planning the party I asked if he would split 1/2 with me, well he went blastic and refused. I didn't say another word have saved for the party and have gotten my niece to help me that day. Last night he anounces he is coming to the party. I told him no it was my party for them and he has them again that night. Weeks earlier I told him he should plan something small for them at his house since they would be with him. Well needless to say he is furious, and told me I would be really sorry for this etc....

My question is am I doing the right thing our am I being a jerk?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 11:01pm

Well, he KNOWS and will have to live with himself.... and I'd just tell him that you've thought about it, and for the sake of the girls, he can come.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 12:18am
How about telling him that if he would like to come, you would like him to contribute. That's fair, you both get something you want. Maybe ask him to bring the sodas, snacks, balloons, something at least. Good luck!
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Registered: 08-17-2001
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 8:14am

Gracie just had a birthday and I invited her friends to Build-A-Bear for a party. The only day everyone could come was a "Dad Day" so I asked XH if that was okay with him. Rosie had a party there a couple years ago, and he offered to pay half, so I assumed that he'd offer this time as well. No such luck. Not only did he not offer to pay half, he didn't even say "Hey, I'll buy the ice cream" when we went over to the food court. Do I care? Not really. I wouldn't have done it if I couldn't afford it, so it's not a big deal.

And the day of her ACTUAL birthday, I called to see if he was going to stop by to see her and he said "Oh, I didn't think about it." What kind of idiot doesn't want to see his child on their BIRTHDAY???

I think whether or not he's invited would depend on the kind of party. If it's in a public place, I'd invite him. My house? Probably not, though it would depend!

Ah.... LAST TIME, when he paid half, I was unemployed! Perhaps he was being nice?????

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 11:47am

Well, I do have a girlfriend who's EX has decided that his support amount is too much and he's not going to pay it any


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 08-17-2001
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 3:40pm

*LMAO* I love it when these idiots talk about NEED. Children need food and shelter and clothing and love, but they don't NEED every Barbie DVD on the face of the earth and they don't NEED several Polly Pockets and model horses. And though we all know it, when you choose to have children, you make the choice to support them until they're old enough to do it themselves.

UGH! My emotional baggage is showing.

I actually love Build-A-Bear. Someday I might go there and build my own. Neither of the girls wanted that brown bunny even after I pouted about it! Might be a good addition to MY bed since, as you point out, there's no whining and no bed hogging!!!!

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 3:46pm

Brooke got a-nother BAB gift card at Christmas... and rolled her eyes.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~