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Question regarding sleeping with stbx
| Fri, 01-19-2007 - 8:13pm |
As I have posted on here before my husband had left me and I filed for divorce - very fast. I did this without talking to him. We are now in the process of reconciling...The divorce was scheduled for the 8th of January and I had it postponed until the 24th. Someone told me that it is illegal in the state of Georgia (or contempt of court or something) if you sleep with your stbx. Is this true? I am probably going to stop the divorce proceedings before Thursday anyway -- but I have searced everywhere on the internet and have been unable to find the answer to this question. I am not using a lawyer - so I don't have a lawyer to ask.

I'm in GA and haven't heard of this law, but I don't know that I would recommend it unless you're sure you're calling off the proceedings... otherwise, it may complicate matters a bit more...
However, if things are looking up for the two of you, I'm thrilled for ya... Good luck and keep us posted!
Julie
I am going through the same stuff. All the sudden my stbx is not talking to her so he says.
we have decided to postpone our divorce. I dont know if its a good idea or not. He thinks he was just trying to re live his youth. But the fact they had planned on getting together in a year and half when she was planning to leave her husband .......makes me not trust him. I hope that he isnt just using me to stay in the marital house longer.
what do we do? I too jumped into the filing the divorce I was sooo angry.
I think you are not finding the information online because I doubt there is a law against having sex between two adults. If you arent sure I would call the courthouse and ask them.
good luck with whatever you do. Divorce is so final. I think here we have like 90 days or six months or something to postpone going before the judge. but of course all states are different. anyway divorce is so final, I mean if you divorce and marry again that is just expensive. you can always do it later and its so much cheaper to do it yourself. or just get a kit to fill out.
what adults do in privacy is no ones business and definately not in the courts lol
I am so confused. so confused. I am scared to put the divorce on hold. I am scared that I will stay with him another year or so and then he goes with her or with someone else.
How do you build the trust back. He wont give me many details about the affair. He seems to dislike saying bad things about her when I ask him what the bad is.
I told him he was spose to betray her to me now and tell me all the details but he wont. so does that mean he respects her?
here I am venting again. I have a week to decide for sure if I want to go through with this.
what urks me is he said when we were arguing that he had been planning a divorce for three years ,.......long before he found her again and that he had been browsing yahoo personals.
I just dont know what to do. I hate all this stuff. maybe I could just go ahead with the divorce and end it all. I wouldnt have to wonder anymore if he loved me or not as it wouldnt be an issue if we divorce again.
I am so tired of all his crazy making over the years. he says it was me and I say it was him so who knows.
we paid 500 as decided to get an attorney this time to make it easier.
I think I am darned if I do and darned if I dont you know!
yes you arent out much money so yes cancel it and you can always do it again someday if things go bad.
You know perhaps things will go very well now for your family! Yes 25 years together creates a very strong bond. I too am having a hard time trying to hang on and I just figured well........we have paid for the divorce....we should go through with it. We can always get married again I told him LOL or live together. At least when he tells me how stupid I am or tells me about his affair to damage my emotional well being I can show him the door. if he is here lol. I am pretty mad and bitter and actually picture myself having an affair with him after he marries her. but of course that makes me as evil as she is LOL
My son was glad I was going to go through with it still. He said well mom at least you will be away from the abuse. It was so subtle and sneaky, but none less damaging.
At least this way I will get the house and I am afraid if we divorce later instead of now that he will have talked me into selling this house and I dont want that.
gal If I were you I would never ever worry a lick about what anyone in your town thinks of you. Doesnt matter what we do people will talk. I heard a great saying in fact it is the title of a book, very good reading:
"What Other People Think Of Me Is None Of My Business"
but I am an odd one. I do not let society dictate how I live my life. I work for myself and I try to think for myself ........but of course I have been brainwashed in this relationship. I dont go to church and I am soooo much more honorable and a good person than his skank lover who is active in her church.
If you cancel this divorce dont feel bad or like there is something wrong with you. I married this man three times, divorced twice and I even filed once in between where I didnt go to court.
I am thinking if I am going to have anything to do with my imbalanced relationship that we should not ever marry just live together if that is what I want at the time According to statistics my spouse will NOT change so I have to base things on that.
anyway I was going to say hey dont worry about it. You can always get the do it yourself kit again. but save the one you have so you have all the details in there. keep it handy it will give you a feeling of empowerment!
I hope the best of luck to you and keep coming back here even when things go well so you can share your story with us!