Question for those with kids

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Registered: 04-29-2008
Question for those with kids
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Fri, 05-30-2008 - 10:28am

Sorry for the multiple posts today, but the reply to my last one got me wondering

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Registered: 06-02-2008
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 9:56am

Let me first start by saying "There is never a good time" Don't hold off on something if you know this is what you want to do, because you start projecting your negative feelings without even knowing it and the kids will pick up on it.


As for the adjusting - I have a two year old and a four year old. It is difficult at times, I think a bit confusing going from one house to the other, but kids are a lot more resiliant that what we give them credit for. Just always be honest with them and show them that you love them. Also it's important

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Registered: 08-15-2007
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 11:09am

I have been seperated since Feb. 06 of this year. We have lived seperately since April 1st. So, this is all still pretty new for us.


I try to keep my kids busy. I let them go and do with their friends pretty much as much as they want and I let their friends come over when I can (living with my parents at this time). They seem to be adjusting ok, but I believe they need some counseling, my x doesn't believe in it, so he says, no. He holds the insurance right now, so I'm kind of tied with that one. Although, there are some free programs for them, but because I go to school, I can't take them and he won't.


Like the previos poster said, there is NO good time. If your miserable, your kids will know, even the little one. I wish you good luck!

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Registered: 02-23-2006
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 11:28am

lonely


there truly is no good time to do it.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 06-06-2008 - 10:44pm

My thought is that your attitude.... and your STBX's attitude... and both of your involvement with them, listening, talking, giving them opportunity to express how they may be feeling... without smothering them with constant "are you OK?" questions.... and to just be in tune..... has a HUGE role in it.


If you are bitter and sitting around crying.... your kids will be upset and insecure.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~