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| Mon, 06-09-2008 - 8:11am |
Hi, Been on a few other message boards, but now have a BIG question for this board. I have been separated (without my X) Since Dec 7 2007. I moved out, just to fight for 2 months to get the house back for the kids and I to live in. I have lived in the house now for 3 months, with him ordered to pay ALL house bills, and $150 a week in child support. Which is always late. Anyways, I recently started a FT job, with two kids ages 5 and 2....its hard, but doing it on my own so far. We have NOTHING settled yet in court. I have physical custody right now, but that is all that has been settled. June 20th we are suppose to hear what the Evaluation/mediator has recommended. And hoping that SOMETHING will happen that day. I am ordered to live in the county we are in right now, and can't wait to get away. My X is VERY controling and basically has neighbors watching my every move. Long story short....here is my question....I recently (weather wrong or right) have been seeing a guy on the weekends I don't have the kids. (first 3 weekends of the month) We have been seeing each other since around end of April. The first couple times we met up, we had our kids for a play date....which is exactly what it was....bascially to see if we even wanted to see each other. My son who is 5, sees it as that, friends for a play date. This last weekend I told my X that I wasn't calling to say goodnight to the kids, since he wasn't sure where they were staying...the air broke in the house, and he thought they might stay somewhere else. I told him if the kids wanted to talk to have them call me. So Friday night they called and I talked to our son. On Saturday I didn't call, and didn't recieve a call. So Sunday morning I wake up to get a message from my X stated, "where is the TV remote for the upstairs TV, call me" I never called him back, for a silly thing as this. I instead got another call from him around 11:30. His exact words were, "where are you, where did you stay last night, why didn't you call your kids this weekend..don't you care anymore." My response was, "it doesn't matter where I am, I am out, and what do you really want" I ended up hanging up on him, since this was an obvious attempt to harrass me. Then 5 min before pick up time for the kids, my phone rang. He says, "are you running on time tonight" I said, "i am coming down the road right now" He says, "EASY, WHORE" When I got to the house, he says, "out with your new boyfriend, did you have fun" I laughed and said, "whatever, do you have the child support check, his response was, OH I totally forgot it last week, quess I'll drop it off in the mail box when I come back over tonight to the neighbors for some beers" I asked our son what daddy was talking about me having a boy friend. His response was, "daddy says that our playdates were because it is your boyfriend, but daddy is a liar and I like playing with those kids, so I don't like daddy when he talks like that" I don't plan on having any more playdates until the court is over. But was wondering if I could have some input on the situation. I am now worried that he can use anything against me in court on the 20th stating I am not giving him my wearabouts on weekends, and that I had the kids meet this guys kids. (which like I said, it was two playdates, and a picnic....which that was all it was) He can't prove anything, but just want some input. Thanks.

If your STBX is going to play that way, I'd ask your new BF to back off a bit until you guys get your divorce done.
There is no reason that he needs to know where you are on weekends when he has the kids esp. if you can be reached by cell phone.
Hi there grantsma,
First - I'd skip the mediator.