questions about divorce?--North Carolina
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| Mon, 08-13-2007 - 3:33pm |
Was hoping someone could maybe help me out with a few questions.
These do pertain to the laws in North Carolina, there is a group of us going through or possibly going to divorce and before starting we had some basic questions we just wanted answers to before we start going to the lawyers.
Here are the questions:
How long do you have to be married in North Carolina to receive alimony?
If you are separated and your spouse finds you dating someone else is that considered adultery during the marriage (in legal terms-not morally please) and could that be used in court or is it only prior to the separation that that is applicable?
Finally, can you explain the process of abandonment? One of my friends who has been separated from his spouse for well over a year was wondering about that, because his wife left, he was the spouse that worked and he owned the house but she left and he is still there. Would that qualify as abadonment and how would he file the paperwork for that? Would she be able to ask for alimony in that situation? If that wasn't considered abadonment, would he have to give her alimony if he hasn't been supporting her during the time they were separated?
If anyone is able to help with those questions it is greatly appreciated and thank you in advanced!

Hi there!
I strongly suggest that you consult with an attorney.... set up a consultation, typically done for a nominal fee... and get the facts about what your rights and responsibilities will be for your situation.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Hi Goddess:
I too reside in NC, & am very recent into all of this mess. I left my husband 6 weeks ago on: 7-8-07. I left him & the house...no kids, because I just couldn't take it any longer. He was stunned. But, it only took him: 9 DAYS to go to an attorney & then e-mail me about it, at my work e-mail, no less. I was absolutely devastated...nearly passed-out. My leaving was a cry for his help, for him to change, but for him, it was the "out" he had been waiting for, I guess. All of this is entirely his doing...the failure of the marriage & he rushes to an attorney, but I think he forgot to mention: ADULTERY to that attorney. I have the proof & when I decide to open the: Legal Separation papers sitting on my counter with the other junk mail, that I've had since: 7-25-07, them I'll get my own attorney & he'll wish he had never started this.
I, like you, have many questions, but I've been so torn-up over all of this....I never wanted the divorce, that I've actually started seeing a great therapist. He has helped me tremendously. He suggested that I at least buy 1 hr of time with an attorney, just to hear my options, & then decide to retain him/her, or not. And, he said that I needed to get back in the house & get my H to leave, & I did. All I had to do was catch him in "OUR" house w/another woman, 12 days after I left him, & he then moved-out that same night. That's only part of his: ADULTERY. I can't even begin to tell you how hard this had been. I hope you're able to handle whatever you're going thru. Hang-in there.
If you've found any good advice, please share with me. I can use all the help I can get right now. Thank God for wonderful, supportive friends & family !!!!
Aleta