questions: alimony, proving abuse

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2006
questions: alimony, proving abuse
4
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 1:48pm

I'm not really sure how to phrase what I'm thinking but I'll give it a shot.


Married for 3 1/2 yrs.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2007
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 3:33pm
Boy do I feel for you! While my husband does'nt drink, he starts projects and never finishes. The bathroom has been torn apart for two years, and it's the only one. What I have thought about doing is, if he leaves, getting a roommate to help pay for the cost of the mortgage, heck evan two, whatever it takes to keep the house or at least until it can be repaired then sold. Hang in there, hopefuly someone else can give better or more advice!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 10-04-2007 - 11:37am

Hi rocket!


I suggest that you chat this over with an attorney consult, BUT... if you have your paper trail, you can probably get the house (especially since you don't think he wants it anyway)... and he could be "awarded" half of the debt incurred while you've been married.... or more of it!--especially if you've got a good paper trail of his alcohol spending habits--does he use cash or plastic?


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-04-2007 - 10:43pm
Check this site- http://www.pimall.com/nais/n.tel.tape.law.html - to see if you can tape record him secretly. If you're in a one party state, you don't have to have his permission to tape record his activities. Definitely see an attorney!

Photo Sharing and Video Hosting at Photobucket




I am unable

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2006
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 8:13am

Rocket,


Karen is right when she says to consult an attorney. Take the time to write down your legal questions, i.e. how the house may or may not be split, your financial situation, alimony questions. Many attorneys will give you a 15-60 minute first appointment for free so use it wisely.


As for your husband's alcoholism, please look up the folks at Alanon : http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/. This organization helps the families of alcoholics cope. You'll find helpful and friendly people on the other end of their 800 number.


I also encourage you to find a not-for-profit credit counselor and go see them. Take all your bills and lay them out on the table. They can help you determine what to do about your finances. Don't automatically think bankruptcy!


Take care and let us know how you're doing. Gather information and take action. You'll feel a lot less trapped and more confident.

CL-Wisdomtooth2020