Questions For Attorney?

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Registered: 12-19-2001
Questions For Attorney?
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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 7:16pm

I have a consultation with an attorney tomorrow (5/6) afternoon.


DH & I are going to try for a dissolution rather than a costly divorce.

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Registered: 03-04-2008
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 10:03pm

OK...here I go....

* Contact your state's department of child welfare. They will give guidelines for child support.

* If you have sole custody he will need to agree to how often he will see his child. Every other weekend. How often, pick and drop off times.

* Visitation: Can your son be around his GF's? You can limit this as being in the best interest of the child.

* Spousal Support: He will pay a certain amount weekly/monthly to you.

* DBA - You are co-owner of the business by marriage. He can buy you out (best option) or you can get a set payment from the business.

*DBA - He will care an insurance policy to limit your liability. $1 million is a good amount and it is fairly cheap.

* Automobiles - Title will transfer as you decide. Also, limit your liability.

* Monthly statements from the DBA - A monthly Profit and Loss statement will be prepared for your review. All vendors will be listed along with their Tax Id #.

* A Balance Sheet will be prepared quarterly and will list (in detail) all assets and liabilities.

* All bank accounts will be identified with date of opening, interest paid and any credit cards will be identified.

* All DBA credit cards will be closed and you will be taken off as a cosigner for the card(s). This will limit your liabilities.

* Mortgage - What is the outstanding balance and what do you want to do with it?

* Moving - Your H will allow you to move to be closer to your family.

* Child activities - H will equally share all expenses related to child activities, sports, music and art..or anything else that you like.

* Retraining funds - H will set aside a certain amount of money in case you need a new skill set.

* College Fund - H will setup a college fund with you as the Executor and make regularly (quarterly or monthly) contributions.

I hope that this helps...

Sonya...

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Registered: 12-19-2001
Tue, 05-06-2008 - 6:33am

Wow, thanks for all the info Sonya!


I don't think some of the DBA stuff will apply because it is a VERY small business.

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Registered: 03-04-2008
Tue, 05-06-2008 - 9:22am

The business maybe small but it is liability that I would worry about.


Get copies of the Incorporation documents.


Yes, you can limit your son's exposure to stbxH's GF. It is what is the best intereest of the child. Plus the fact your H has a drinking problem.


One more thing, notify the school or child care center that they can never release your son to H unless you have provided express written permission and that it is dated for that particular day...


Also, go to your local bank and ask for blank signature cards. Sign the cards in fron of a Notary and then drop one card of at the school. That way they will have a reliable version of your signature.


Sorry, I missed this. I was tired when I psoted earlier.


Sonya...

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Registered: 11-25-2003
Tue, 05-06-2008 - 12:53pm

Hey there buckeyegold,


First you want to be clear in your own mind - are you seeking revenge or just a divorce?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2001
Tue, 05-06-2008 - 5:02pm

No, I'm not out for revenge.

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Registered: 03-04-2008
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 8:27am

How are you doing?


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Registered: 12-19-2001
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 4:15pm

I'm doing okay.