I'm going through the same. SAHM for 12 years, 2 daughters (12 and 4). My husband told me our marriage was over on Jan. 31 and moved in with his new girlfriend on Feb. 9. No divorce papers have been filed yet. It is just so overwhelming.
Anyway, here are some things for you to bring to a lawyer (I just copied and pasted right from my "divorce" folder, ha ha. sigh). Just some ideas. I checked out a lot of books from my library when my STBX first left. :
bank statements
mortgage papers
tax returns
pay stubs
insurance policies (life, health, homeowners)
employee benefit records
social security, retirement benefit statements
pension & retirement plan policies & statements
Here are some of my own things I've been going over with a lawyer:
What I want:
*half of gross for ten years, then just child support
*pay support for kids until 21 while in college
*pay percentage of child care
*percentage of cash medical (co-pay's, future expenses, etc.)
I'm going through the same. SAHM for 12 years, 2 daughters (12 and 4). My husband told me our marriage was over on Jan. 31 and moved in with his new girlfriend on Feb. 9. No divorce papers have been filed yet. It is just so overwhelming.
Anyway, here are some things for you to bring to a lawyer (I just copied and pasted right from my "divorce" folder, ha ha. sigh). Just some ideas. I checked out a lot of books from my library when my STBX first left. :
bank statements
mortgage papers
tax returns
pay stubs
insurance policies (life, health, homeowners)
employee benefit records
social security, retirement benefit statements
pension & retirement plan policies & statements
Here are some of my own things I've been going over with a lawyer:
What I want:
*half of gross for ten years, then just child support
*pay support for kids until 21 while in college
*pay percentage of child care
*percentage of cash medical (co-pay's, future expenses, etc.)
*the house, or all proceeds from sale of house
*all fees pertaining to divorce
*he pays for
This is helpful. Thank you for sharing.
For my case, I added:
*pay the difference between car values, also factoring in my car payment
*Create and execute a
I'm a divorce laywer and I wish all my clients were like you!
Thank you for the great information.