Quick (promise! lol) update ... (m)

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Quick (promise! lol) update ... (m)
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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 11:07pm

He is still a lunatic. He is emotionally torturing my poor baby. (eg: He & i picked out our 8 yr old dog together, when

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Tue, 11-29-2005 - 8:50am

Yea.... Boo...... Poo..... LOL!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Tue, 11-29-2005 - 10:57am

Aww...Congrats to your friend! I'm glad to hear that all three babies are doing well!


Your STBX is such a jackass. Mine does the same thing with visits, he would call an hour or two before he wanted to see them, when I told him MONTHS ago to give 24 hours notice. Personally, I think mine was doing this b/c he knew I'd say no and then he could rationalize not seeing the boys by telling himself that I wouldn't let him see them. How on EARTH could a 'grown-up' (and I use the term loosely) could tell a child such things! When she gets older she's going to hate him for putting her through this.


I was just going to email you about the 'younger' guy LOL. I was wondering how things were going there, it sounds like they are going well. Get 'em girl! lol *hugs*

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Tue, 11-29-2005 - 10:57am

I think we must be married to the same type of nutcase. We had to go to court a couple weeks back because he would not agree to the parenting schedules I proposed and so the judge ending up ruling in my favor. You know what he told my 16 year old? He told him that Mom dragged Dad to court because Mom's attorney said that he (the 16 year old) ran away from home. My son confronted me on this because he was upset and I told him that I never told my attorney that he "ran away" from home, but that he left the house for a few hours because he and his father were having it out and I also let him know that the hearing had NOTHING to do with his leaving the house! MY STBX is doing everything in his power to make me look like the bad guy to my son and daughter. It's truly pathetic.

Last year was a wonderful Christmas because the ex was in Antarctica working, so this will be the second Christmas with him out of the picture and I'm looking forward to the peace. I don't miss looking at his *ticked off* all the time face. I would rather be alone than with him - it's no different now anyway because I felt alone even when I was married to him! It's interesting how you can be married and still be lonely at the same time. I can't wait until this divorce will be over.....

Congratulations on your friend's babies!

Belinda

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Tue, 11-29-2005 - 11:13am

Zinnia, my ex did the same thing with my son. He "confided" in him about our problems so when he moved out my son moved with him and my ex said that he "was leaving it up to him to decide if he wanted to have time with me". Of course that all changed when he got a GF because now my son HAS to be here and he's not liking it. Oh well, he's getting better about it and he sees that I am here.

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Tue, 11-29-2005 - 11:26am

I'm hoping my ex gets a GF too. I found out he's "advertising" on Match.com (17 pictures!!!! Is that vain or what!!!!). Once he is preoccupied with a new GF, then the kids will notice a shift in his focus from being Superdad. I think he has tried to drive a wedge between me and my kids, hoping that would force me back home, but I won't fall into that trap. Let's hope he finds a GF soon! :)

P.S. - My son needed new boxers and socks, which I bought for him last week because Dad told him his budget was tight. Funny how he's willing to go on Match.com and pay for that and for any dates he takes out, but won't buy his kid underwear....

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Tue, 11-29-2005 - 11:37am

I thought him having a GF would be good, and it is somewhat except now I have her butting in her 2 cents worth about my job, work hours, money issues. My ex doesn't pay child support and she has the nerve to say that I need to think about finding a cheaper place to live and that I need to hire a sitter because my ex doesn't want to take the kids on my work days (3). She's got a great job and gets alimony and child support and is at the mall ALL the time and yet I'm the one that needs to "change my lifestyle". Yeah my lifestyle is so great!

I got $crewed this year buying school clothes, I ended up buying everything except one pair of shoes and some notebooks, yet he can spend money left and right on his GF and her kids. It really ticks me off how imbalanced it is and yet I'm still the bad guy. He doesn't even think about the extras such as school dances from last week that I paid for and my son needs supplies for a school project. Not to mention who sits in the doctor's offices and dentist offices makes the appointments and pays for the insurance.