Quick question

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Quick question
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Tue, 07-26-2005 - 10:21am
If ex were to take me to court for a modification of visitation (he wants more), and to try maybe to take custody totally away from me, would the fact that he's behind in child support make any difference in this?
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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: klo73
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 10:44am
Probably not legally. It won't help him either though. And you can bring up in court that you believe he wants custody to get out of paying child support. But if he has grounds, like he could prove you are unfit and a harm to your own child, then the child support will be less of an issue.

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In reply to: klo73
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 10:57am
Well he can't prove I'm an unfit mother. All he can prove is that he and I have gone out since we've been divorced. All he can prove is that I lied in court last year to get a RO that has since been dropped (it was dropped in November) ... all he can prove is that ... well who knows. But he's on the war path again, and i think this time he really means he's oging to do something. As opposed to the other millions of times he's said he's going to do something, but hasn't.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: klo73
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 11:14am

If I were you, I wouldn't worry about it until it happens. It's more likely that he is all talk based on past history, and that even if he does go to his attorney his attorney will say trying to take custody from you is a waste of time.

But if his main concern is that he wants more time with his child, are there circumstances under which you would agree to that? As long as he's not a danger, more time with his son might be a good thing. How much time does he have now? I know if my ex had less than 1/2 time it would eat him up inside, and my x-bf when he had EOW and one weeknight he was tremendously depressed not being able to see his son enough.

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Registered: 12-16-2004
In reply to: klo73
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 12:19pm
Based on the past, it really is likely he's just talk. Although today he isn't talking to me at all, which is what worries me. Usually he calls and says he's going to do this and that and the other, but today nothing. He's mad, he's made it known he's mad .. so that's why I'm worried.
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Registered: 09-17-2004
In reply to: klo73
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 3:17pm

Although today he isn't talking to me at all, which is what worries me. Usually he calls and says he's going to do this and that and the other, but today nothing.


Why do you answer the phone?

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