re: ex calling the kids

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Registered: 02-24-2004
re: ex calling the kids
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Sat, 08-16-2008 - 1:49pm

I took my 2 boys, 11 and 9, to the movies.

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sun, 08-17-2008 - 7:12am

Mom,


Your husband is still trying to control you. He's just doing it indirectly by

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 02-24-2004
Sun, 08-17-2008 - 5:43pm

Thanks for your response.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 08-17-2008 - 8:17pm
My ex is a really good dad. He sees the kids about 3 times a week, so he doesn't really call when it's not his day, unless it's something very basic, like to say what time he is going to pick them up. My DS is almost 13 and he doesn't have a cell phone yet (going to get him one for his birthday). If the kids mention what they did w/ me or vice versa, it's up to them. I think your ex's questioning is excessive and intrusive. if he keeps it up, you might have to limit his phone calls w/ them to a certain time at night. He really has no right to question them about everything they do when they are w/ you. After all, if you are the custodial parent, he (or the court) must trust you to be a good parent. Do you wonder if he's pumping them for info about whether you have a bf? Why does he only take the kids one day a week? If you suggested that maybe he would like to take them another night during the week for dinner, would he do it?
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Registered: 02-24-2004
Sun, 08-17-2008 - 9:51pm

Well, he is a workaholic.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 1:47pm
I would say that when my ex calls the kids, it's to ask them how they are doing, so maybe the subject of WHAT they have done lately will come up, but it's not like he's trying to pump them for info.