RE: Name change.....

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Registered: 04-18-2003
RE: Name change.....
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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 5:20pm

I have my name hyphenated and I debated also with my daughter. Keeping the same last name as her but when I went to see my lawyer and he asked are you planning on keeping your married name I about screamed HELL NO!!! So I am going back to my maiden name so I don't think it will be that big of deal when I need to change bank statements and all that other crap.

My daughter knows her father the piece of &*^! that he is. But I have been thinking strongly because I wanted to give her my maiden name when I had her as her middle name but nooooo he wanted her named after his one sister and then I said well I want her named after my oldest niece "AnnaMarie" and now I want to change it to my maiden name - do you think I should do this? She is going on 5yrs and she is confused all ready because she knows that I don't talk to her aunt that she is named after any more.

I know it isn't her fault but I would truly like to change it.

Her daddy's name is Eliseo Guerrero IV and our daughter's name is Elise AnnaMarie Guerrero so I would like to change it to my maiden name Elise Roman Guerrero yeah it is ugly looking but oh well or should I just teach her to write her name that way?

FeliciaRG

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 5:36pm
I wouldn't change a 5 year old's name, it might be too confusing and end up being a big point of contention with your ex and your dd probably doesn't need that. What about a compromise and give her two middle names? Is the divorce final yet? Does your ex have joint legal custody? If so, you might need his permission to do something like a name change. We had a post a few months ago from a guy who's ex changed the children's name on the school records (not a legal name change through the courts) and he fought it and had it changed back. Since it's a middle name it might not be as big of a deal, but your ex could make it a big deal if he wants. The other option (this would be my preference) is to wait until she's older and make it her choice.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 8:12am

her name is part of her identity - like her face! i would not change it! (and i am not even sure you are allowed to, but that's a different story).


leave her name as it is - its her name, that's how everyone already knows her. you could start refer to YOU TWO (as a family unit) as the "roman-guerrero's" - which will give her a connection to both her mother and father. but not in her school or social life, lets say when you go to church or something.


felicia - there are so many real issues in divorce - my advice is don't look for trouble where there is none.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 11:53am

I would keep AnnaMarie for the great name that it is.... family ties aside... plus, I'm pretty sure that if you try to change her name before she's 18, you'll have to get his permission.


Also, please go back and edit your post to remove the "real" family names.... in the age of computers and technology, we just can never be too careful, especially when it comes to our children.


I LOVE the name AnnaMarie... and Elise.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~