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? re: overnite guests or opposite sex ..
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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 9:41pm

Just thinking ahead. We are tweaking the settlement we are about to offer. STBX can be quite irresponsible, drinks (although he doesnt appear to be doing that

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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 10:41am

Hey there,


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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 3:38pm
It could be done if it were an agreement made in settlement. I cant force it ... but we coudl ask for it.

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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 4:59pm

Hey Rebecca,

I hope this doesnt come off too strong but I was wondering why is averey still sleeping in the bed with her dad?

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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 7:48pm
My attorney said that you can include that language... but it's difficult to enforce, even if you both agree to do it because "this is 2005!" and co-habitation is common.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 8:59pm

Nah, valid question.

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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 9:00pm
Yep! I decided not to push any more buttons that may come back to bite me you know where, unless i have to!

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Thu, 09-08-2005 - 10:09am

I hear ya. Jaylen will be 3 the end of november and him and I are really attached. Where ever I go he likes to go. Like when I take a shower he likes to be right there and even though I close the curtain he likes to open it and play peek-a-boo, or he will sit on his potty and do the same thing. But when I need to do other things it gets a little awkward for him to be in there with me ya know LOL, so now im trying to explain to him that when Im in there "mommy needs privacy". Its so funny.

But I understand what your saying. Hope everything goes well with you and the whole overnight guest thing. I know for me for the few times that his dad did keep him overnight I was adamant about him not having his gf sleep there too. He claimed that he wouldnt do that but I will never know for sure if really kept his word and I dont want to know. The thought of it is just too painful.

Talk to you soon.

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Thu, 09-08-2005 - 3:22pm

My daughter is 8 and likes to sleep with me and she'll sleep in her father's bed too. She has regressed a bit since the divorce. On weekends she likes to sleep in the livingroom "camping". I've been using that leverage to get her used being back to sleeping on her own.

As far as "no overnight" guests, it's not something you have control over. It kind of sucks, but you just have to not think about what's going on when they are with him. My ex takes the kids to his GF's on his weekends and I know soon enough they'll be spending nights over there. I don't like the idea of it, but I have no control over it, just like he doesn't have control over my boyfriend visiting when the kids are at my place.