Reality hits

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Registered: 02-09-2005
Reality hits
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Sat, 06-25-2005 - 6:38am
Sat thru a mediation appt yesterday. Just an individual one for me. We have had a joint one prior. Reality has set in. Alternating holidays? Less or more than 105 overnights? I hate my H for forcing my hand with this. After he had lunch with my daughter (who knows about the affair) and the OW I really had no option. I am sad, depressed, angry. I have a PT job that I love. It is the perfect job for anyone with school age kids.
I will have to give it up. It won't be enough income. Why do I feel like the one being punished for his actions? He still makes his money, still works with the OW, can come and go as he pleases. The thought of the kids being split for holidays is killing me. It's something I never thought of. I hate him for this.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: betrayed131
Sat, 06-25-2005 - 2:29pm

hugs.... there isn't much that i can say to you that will comfort you, just wanted to know that i feel your pain and i hope and pray that things will get better for you...


you're right - its not fair, its not right,but you know that it is a reality. and yes, it will be hard on your kids but i can tell you that

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Registered: 08-31-2004
In reply to: betrayed131
Sat, 06-25-2005 - 3:01pm
hugs to you....I am so sorry...I dont know if this helps or not but I am a very firm believer in karma, Its one of the few things that is getting me by right now. It may take time, but he will get a big taste of his own medicine...just remember you are not alone and hang in there.....
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Registered: 06-09-2005
In reply to: betrayed131
Sat, 06-25-2005 - 8:01pm
Aww, I'm so sorry. I have it easier in that I want out of the marriage. If it helps try to think of the holidays in this light--they won't be what you're used to, but a new normal will come. And, then the holidays will be nice again, but in a new way, kwim? I hope that the next few days brings more sunshine to your heart.