really angry at him!

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really angry at him!
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Wed, 05-28-2008 - 10:34am

I had an argument w/ DH last night (I would write STBX, but it doesn't seem like it's coming soon enough).

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Wed, 05-28-2008 - 2:16pm

ML...a quick question. Could your stbx say these things to get a rise out of you?


I have been folloing your posts and I see that you are doing all of the work while he is not doing much of anything. I wonder if he is just playing games with you? You are fixing his credit report, helping with the apartment application(s) and other things.


He is not exactly working to make the situation better.


Just a thought.


stunned08

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Wed, 05-28-2008 - 3:19pm

I think that in part he loses control and in part he likes intimidating people to get his way.

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Wed, 05-28-2008 - 9:00pm
Hey MusicLover
I can't help but relate to your issues with your Dh/stbx. It really sounds like he is manipulating you; if he didn't get his medication (which would explain his behaviour), that is an excuse for him, in my opinion. My STBX always has an explanation about why he missed his appointments/his med's/AA meetings etc. I believe it is a controlling issue (and alcoholic related...as well as personality disorder--narcissitic). I think you are doing way too much to accommodate him. I don't mean to be disrespectful of you, I just feel and
see what I did in a lot of what YOU are doing. Response??
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Wed, 05-28-2008 - 10:22pm

musiclover,


I wonder if my H and your H have the same DNA; the exchange you mentioned about the cursing and the bullying, and also the threatening, is so familiar. My STBX has never been diagnosed with anything, but believe me, I have my suspicions about his mental problems.

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Mon, 06-02-2008 - 1:03pm

That last part is definitely true.

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Mon, 06-02-2008 - 8:16pm

Yea, and my STBX sounds a little like that also.

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Mon, 06-02-2008 - 10:57pm
My H also used to belittle me years ago, when I