Really Need Help on Telling my 8 year old

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Registered: 10-13-2011
Really Need Help on Telling my 8 year old
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Thu, 10-13-2011 - 1:51pm

My STBX and I are going to court on 10/28 and I need some good advice on how to tell my 8 year old daughter that Daddy will not be living here anymore.

He and I are handling this amicably (he is actually still living here until mid November), and we are actually filing with joint physical custody.

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Registered: 07-14-2011
Thu, 10-13-2011 - 4:12pm

Hi Jen-

My H and I just separated two weeks ago.

Formerly heartacheafter7years
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Registered: 10-13-2011
Thu, 10-13-2011 - 6:01pm
THANK YOU for your advice. I am so sorry about your daughter, that must have broken your heart. I am so afraid she is going to either have a terrible reaction, or no reaction at all.

I plan on making sure that STBX is there with me, he just better be strong and not wimpy or I will become the bad guy. I can see him trying that since he doesn't want this divorce.
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Registered: 04-16-2005
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 10:03am

My H just left two weeks ago. We sat down together with our 8 year old son and told him together. We tried to be as positive as possible, and kept reinforcing that we both love him, and that things would be okay. He cried alot, and does not really understand, but he seems to be adjusting, some anyway. I have noticed the last week he has been leaving his homework in school and has been kind of angry with me, but I am hoping that by constantly reassuring him that i love him, will help him get through this. Good luck :-)

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Fri, 11-25-2011 - 5:20am

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