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Really Scared
| Mon, 08-20-2007 - 4:34pm |
I am thinking of a separation and divorce. No, I am wanting a seperation and a divorce. He loves me so much. He is a good man. Caring Loving. But I am not in love with him anymore, I have been thinking of this for 6 year end I haven't been in love with him that long. I met a man six years ago and had been with him for two years and we got pregnant and I lost the baby. But when that happened both spouses found out and he asked me to walk away from Ray and I tried but I went back and we had contact through the computer for the next four years. My husband is a computer software engineer and he put programs on the computer to track me and take screen shots of conversations. Always he got mad and TOLD ME to quit. This year Ray died and I had two breakdowns within two weeks. And I SAW that I had wasted 6 years of my life. There will never be another Ray I am not leaving over that. I am leaving because I love him like a sibling but not like a husband, I am no longer in love with him. I have a mental disorder and take meds and so I know it's better to leave my daughter here with him. plus she has a wonderful school, piano teacher, and is a cheerleader this year for the peewee program. I can't take her out of her safe zone to a Women's shelter. My husband Has decided I should be an at home mom and in the last 23 years I have worked 3 not altogether. Just here and there and most of that was home care for children. I am scared. But I want to be out in the world again. I want to know if I can make it. I can be here in the morning to get my daughter off to school and then be back to get her off the bus. I will be seeking disability and if I get it she will get a dividend and that way I can pay child support. I called my therapist and psychiatrist and asked for information on Legal Aid, Shelters, and getting on Disability. My psychiatrist told me a long time ago to try for disability. So that's where I am.


Hey, it sounds like you're on the right track to get the information that you need to get disability set up and to find out what your other options are for assistance.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
So I asked him a month ago did he want a seperation for six months to a year and he said no, So how do I now ask for a divorce I have had 6 years to get ready for this decision and he will just be crushed. I couldn't find anywhere to go in this area so I can be with my daughter. So she will have to make the decision to stay with Daddy and do Piano and cheerleading or go back to Florida with Mama. I could ask the hubby if we could amicably stay together until her cheerleading season is over and then leave on Christmas break. I want this man as a friend. He is kind and caring. I hope we can work this out for the good of our daughter. Has anyone had an amicable divorce?
Julie
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Tonight I ask to be seperated from him to prepare for a divorce, BUT agree to counselling during the seperation. I am scared. He thinks there is another man in my life and that's just not true.These are my decisions. It's like waking up after a long sleep and seeing I have been totally controlled and HAVE ALLOWED this to happen.
Julie
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