Received a compliment yesterday

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Registered: 12-21-2004
Received a compliment yesterday
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Thu, 11-02-2006 - 4:47am
If anyone has read my prior messages you know that husband of 21 years walked out on us 6 weeks ago. He is on drugs and is living with a woman about 18 miles away. He has no job, has given us no money nor has he contacted his children (at all). I had the phone numbers changed, cell and home at the advice of law officials last week because his new woman called and threatened me twice - they said she sounded high on drugs and about 22. All of that makes me sick.......but anyway - someone told me that even though I am mad with him because I never left him and he walked out on me - that I haven't said anyting "bad" about him...I really thought that was a compliment because that really is the truth. He has so many wonderful qualities. He is everything a woman would want in a husband.....he never ever fusses about anything, he cleans the house way better than I do, does all the yard work, will stay up hours after we go to bed cleaning up and fixing things (he can fix anything)....but he is on drugs and has been ever since I've known him - never did them around me - and would always swear he wasn't. I guess the hardest part for me was the he walked out on us... and that I always stayed with him no matter what - and maybe this was the best thing he thought he could do for me. If he is doing crystal meth...he sure doesn't need to be around our two teenagers (in a world where we try and teach our children not to)I have filed for divorce by publication....it started running this week. I guess what I'm saying is that as much reason as I have to hate him....I still haven't talked bad about him...well I have talked about the drug use...and the sadness I feel. But I thought it was a compliment.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 11-02-2006 - 8:20pm
Definitely a compliment... it says a lot about you and your values... and that despite all of this, you haven't let him compromise who you are.... and that.... is a complement of the best kind!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~