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| Wed, 08-30-2006 - 1:04pm |
I received the divorce papers yesterday. I knew to expect them but when I was served with them I felt very very sad. It is just so for real now. I just couldn't get a handle on my emotions all day yesterday. The kids kept asking me "Mom are you ok?"
Just when I think my emotions are fine they aren't. I'm really not ok with this at all. I'm not ok that after 12 yrs of marriage he comes home one day and says he is unhappy then wants a separation,, then wants a divorce. It is just all moving to fast for me. One day happy, the next day divorced. It is so unfair! We have 5 kids together, I have been a stay at home Mom for 10 or so years. I've cooked, cleaned, supported him in all and every decsion he has wanted to do. Here I am being left. It can't be about sex because I'm not that kind of wife who is too tired. I know it's not me its him but man I really feel what can be so much better? I've done everything in my power to be a good wife and mother. Why wasn't I good enough?

Hugs, Brenda
You are going to be okay!!!! I can imagine that you feel really bad right now, but trust me, this feeling will pass with time. But it is absolutely okay to grieve. There is nothing wrong with you. You must take care of yourself. If you have family or friends that can lend their emotional support to you during this time, take advantage of it. And please remember, this is just one phase of your life that you can get through. I am sorry you are going through this hard time.
Shawanna
It's not you, it's him. You did do everything correctly and he didn't. He sacrificed you and his children. Don't question yourself. Be strong. Take care of yourself and know you'll be better off down the road. Do you have a real life support system to depend on? Hugs to you.