Recently divorced...trying to deal
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Recently divorced...trying to deal
| Wed, 11-30-2005 - 2:42am |
Hi...I am a mother of three children. My divorce has been final for over a month now. He moved out the beginning of the year. I am trying to deal with my anger. I cant stand to talk to my ex or even look at him. He has been dating months before our divorce was final. He said that they were just friends. Nothing is going on. I forced him to talk to her and get close to her. I cant stand it that another woman has influence on my children now. Ex lives an hour away. GF lives over 2 hours away from him. On the weekends Ex has kids, she has been spending the night as well. He says that he cant afford to take the kids to their weekend activities. Besides it isnt activities he wants to do with the kids. Then he takes them to GF to spend the day. The hurt and anger is eating me up. I know it isnt doing me any good. The self doubt that I have I am trying to deal with. The question of "why couldnt he love me, what is wrong with me?" goes through my head. I am thankful and try to celebrate something everyday, even if it is small. I am so ready for this year to end and start fresh with a new one. Advice, comments would much be appreciated.

Hi danggal,
Im sorry your feeling this way and going through what you are. I think what your feeling is totally normal, some people heal faster then others its been less then a year thats not very long. "why couldnt he love me, what is wrong with me?" There is nothing wrong with you, dont even go there! Ask yourself whats wrong with him? Have you been to someone you can talk to? a therapist, or a counsellor. I think it would do you a world of good to talk to someone about your feelings. It would make you realize what your going through right now is totally normal, and that its just part of the healing process that you will get through!!!! Hang in there and big Hugs to you. Keep me posted.
Heidi.