Roommate Question

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Registered: 12-11-2003
Roommate Question
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Tue, 09-20-2005 - 8:55am

I've been seperated from my x for over a month now and I've been living with my parents. Sucks after 8-yrs of being on my own to move back home, but anyways I've been looking for an apartment and I can't seem to find anything I can afford. I had thought about getting a roommate, then a guy came in at work and he happens to be looking for a roommate to split everything down the middle (seems very weird how that ended up coming out). I went and looked at the apartment it's very nice already has washer and dryer, and it would only be $300 a month for my half on everything. Would it be a bad idea to room with a guy? My step dad says it would be a big mistake that I should just live with them until Feb or March and save as much money as I can then find a place but I would love to move out and have my own place, but what do you guys think about rooming with a guy?
Even worse my STBX has already moved his gf in with him, and what's funny is he told my friends that he has to train her to cook and clean. She's 30 and can't cook or clean. How funny is that considering I am a neat freak and cooked all the time.
Oh yeah, this room mate is single makes good money he's cute, he is 22 and I'm 25, his best friend happens to be my cousin. Seems so weird how it came about, but what do you all think? Thanks.

Stacy

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Tue, 09-20-2005 - 10:37am

I would say if it's just you... go for it. ( If there were kids involved that would be different )


Why not? I mean what's the worst that could happen?


Hugs and good luck!


Angelena


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Registered: 12-11-2003
Tue, 09-20-2005 - 10:46am

Thanks, yeah really what is the worst that could happen, just be moving out. It is just me, no kids, no pets, why not? My parents don't like it but come on I'm almost 26yrs old and I don't like living at home at all. No freedom, no one is allowed to visit me, it sucks. Thanks so much.

Stacy

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Tue, 09-20-2005 - 12:04pm
I lived with a female friend and her boyfriend for a year, and never had a problem having a male roommate. Just always wear your robe back and forth from the bathroom if you're modest. One thing if you're living with roommates - it's a good idea to have a lock on your bedroom door if you can. Eg. if he has some friends over partying and you go to bed, if you lock your door you know some weirdo you don't know isn't going to end up in your room with you at 3 am.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-20-2005 - 12:56pm

Might depend on the guy. Does he keep the place clean? Would he constantly "accidentally" slip his boxers into your laundry basket so he doesn't have to do women's work? LOL! I have heard men joke about this, they take a HUGE pride in never going near a washing machine and tricking others into doing it. And will he have noisy friends over (or moaning girlfriends?) so you cannot get a good night's sleep?

Can you smell his shoes from 10 feet away? And when he uses the bathroom do you have to leave the apartment for 10 minutes to air out?

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Tue, 09-20-2005 - 6:51pm
so funny, an outlook I wouldnt have thought of....LOL!










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Registered: 12-11-2003
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 9:37am

Yeah, me either. I'm still not to sure about it. I kinda want to but kinda iffy about it. I think it would be a different experience for me and like I said what the worst that could happen move out. My parents are usually right about everything, and they don't really like the idea at all so I think that's what is making me doubt it. I need to learn to live my life for me and that is sooo hard for me considering I'm so used to be a wife and now it is totally different I have freedom and no kids. I feel so young, but I know I'm getting older. I don't have any single girlfriends, all of my friends are either couples or single guys. It is so hard as we get older to start a new life, all I ever wanted was someone to love me, and I have so many doubts that it will never happen. Thanks for the input, have a good day.

Stacy

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 11:42am
Although our parents mean well and think they know best, sometimes they may be overprotective and have a biased opinion. When I separated from my ex, both he and my parents thought I should move in with my parents. They didn't think I could be independent and take care of myself - they thought I needed someone to take care of me. I knew it would be a huge emotional step backward for me to move in with my parents, so I resisted the pressure. I found the bills were too much on my own, so I found a friend needing a roommate and lived with her & her boyfriend for a year. Then I was able to afford my own little apartment. Being on my own, i.e. not depending on a boyfriend or my parents, has really helped me grow as a person. I know I don't have to be afraid to be alone. I don't 'need' to be in a relationship to be a whole person, which I believe means I won't try to hold together a doomed relationship again the future. I also don't let people control and manipulate me as much as I once would have - being on my own has given me a chance to really get to know myself and I don't feel the need to people please as much as I used to.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 1:13pm

i have a bit of a different take on this.


I don't have aa problem