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sad, in need of a friend
| Thu, 06-07-2007 - 5:28am |
well what can i say its has been a week almost since i got the news that my husband really wanted to end our 3 yr marragie. things have been really bad from both ends, im feeling mostly at fault for making bad choices. what do i do now we have a soon to be 3 yr old beautiful little girl and all i can think about is her! now im going to be a single mom can i really do this? everyone i now thinks its better off this way but is it? i mean we have a daugheter! i guess im here to meet someone like me that is going through the same feelings as myself. i cant eat sleep or think about anything but this how do you move on?? and how do i make it ok for my daughter? any thoughts out there..

ajones9980...
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Sorry you're grieving! But if it's any consolation...most of us who visit this board have gone through the same process AT LEAST ONCE?
Pianoguy
Hi there, sad, in need of a friend.
I want to express my sympathy for what you're going through. You're probably feeling rejected since your husband is the one who wants the divorce. Please, try not to beat yourself up about the decisions you made. Everything is a learning experience and maybe this situation you're in is a cosmic reminder that life evolves in ways we CANNOT always expect. I'm sorry you're feeling shocked and hurt, and I hope time will heal your pain.
Congratulations on having a precious daughter, albeit 3 years ago! Try to remember as long as she has 2 parents who love her, she WILL survive; and survive feeling loved. Also, keep in mind that the younger the children are when a divorce happens, the less trauma they will feel from it.
I am also going through a divorce and my situation is not exactly the same, but it is still horribly painful. I have three children who are preteens. So, everything that goes on, they hear about it and pick up on all the anger, sadness, bitterness, frustration... etc.
They are also at the age where their lives are being interrupted by this break-up. Their school might be changed, they have to hop around from his place to my place, etc. And my kids love their home! They are comfortable there and are not looking forward to all this moving around.
Anyhow, I wanted to send you a note to try and encourage you to keep your head up and KNOW the pain WILL pass, as ALL things do. Including marriages ... *virtual hug, sis*
~Mrs.Smith2007
Girl i am goin throught the exact same thing. About 2 weeks ago my hasband of 3 1/2 years who i thought i have a very good relationship with left me- 5 months pregnante with his daughter and with our 3 year old son. He just said he didnt love me like i loved him and it wasn't fair for him to keep doing that to me. so i have been driving my self crazy trying to figure out what the hell i did that was so wrong i could just make him stop loveing me. and there is nothing i did i think he is just goin through a hard time and this is how he is dealing with it. But it sucks sooo bad. He already is seing someone a week later. its so eaisy for guys to turn off there feelings. andi know he cares bc he cries when he see's our son because he dosnt want to leave him. i dont know what to tell you except hopefully it will get eaiser or they will realize what they are leaving behind for nothing.
i feel ya! Heather
My point is that we all reach a point when we know it's over, it won't be because you've stopped loving him or stopped being in love. It will be a point when you know that you deserve better than they can offer, especially if they are so self-absorbed as my husband has become.
My prayers and thoughts go out to each and every one of you. I feel your pain, I feel your sleepless nights and those terrible thoughts you have at the start of each day. You are not alone. And if any of you need a shoulder I am here.
I am hoping that there is still the right guy waiting out there for me...As I have plans of moving on...I am now looking toward my future...Sort of...I want to finish my education which is nursing at Arizona State University...
My Mom does not understand what I am going thru as she was married to my Dad until he died and she never went thru a divorce...So she truly does not understand what I am going thru...Some points thru all this she says to me "Go out with him and show him what he is missing" when I can not deal with him on the phone because of the Emotional, Verbal, Mental Abuse he is now putting me thru not to say the Mind Games and Belitting...This is not the guy that I married...He is now a total something a rather...
Well, I am done de-stressing here for a bit...Feel free to respond and OMG I can not wait to be free from him...Thanks for reading and being there for me and I will be there for you...