SAHM - I need advice on how to leave
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|Fri, 01-06-2012 - 4:28pm|
My H and I are currently in IT & MC but, probably to his surprise, this is making me more sure that I have been in complete denial about the level of abuse in our marriage. WHOLE other story. Anyway, one of the biggest things that is holding me back from leaving is that I have been a SAHM of 2 small children. I do work about 10-12 hours / week for my FIL but my husband is the one who pays for everything. Worse than that, the money I managed to save he used to invest in a company with some of his other family members. I am the saver he is the spender. We had a lot of debt that I've been slowly chipping away at but almost nothing in savings that isn't in a 401k, stocks, whatever. Bottom line, I've crunched the numbers and am not at all opposed to working (I'm actually looking forward to feeling like I can be independent) but I can't see how I'm going to support myself and pay for full-time daycare. It costs a fortune! Besides that I'm very concerned about not only having my children go through a divorce, but then having them deal with their mother, who has been home from day one, gone everyday. I am really struggling and have no idea if there is a solution other than sticking it out for a while but I'm not sure that will be possible given how bad things are getting between H & I. ANY advice would be greatly appreciated.