Same church service, Whats his motive?

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Registered: 07-27-2002
Same church service, Whats his motive?
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 12:46pm

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That was part of an email I received from X on the 13th and then he procided to be at the same service that he knows I go to, on the 16th. He sits in a totally diferent spot then he normally does and when I see him he stands up in front of his seat and looks around....so I will see him. We weren't sitting to far from each other and he kept looking at me.

The last email that i sent him I told him that if we weren't go to see each other ever again (which he wanted to have a date-like committed relationship after the D and see what happens) then there is no sense in talking anymore and then I told him that I wished him well and That I was healing and doing pretty good, as long as I didn't talk or see him...Hmmmm!!!He has been going to the early service the past 2 months, now why the same service, right after the email??? Victoria

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Registered: 07-27-2002
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 9:38am
Was he trying to get a rise out of me and what possibly would that be? Is he trying to block my healing process...I don't understand it.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 10-20-2005 - 11:21pm
Who knows what his motive is..... but yours is to stay on your path to healing.... so, keep up with what you're doing... and try to ignore whatever game he's playing.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 6:23am
i agree with karen. just continue to ignore him - and more than that - you need to start (and i know its hard) living "your" life. that's what the healing process is all about. learning to live your life separate from hm and regardless of what he does or doesn't do. block his emails, don't acknowledge him when you see him, just do the things that are good for you. i know that is not easy, and i wouldn't want to bump into my ex at synagogue. but i know that i felt so tremendously better, 100% healed, when i was able to meet him, and ignore him. i once had to meet him at court for some other issue we were both involved in: he gave me a big hello, how are you , yada yada, i gave him a cold stare, sat down, and pulled out an article that i had to read for school. i don't let HIM control my feelings or my life any more.