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Same ole, Same ole!
| Sat, 06-18-2005 - 7:57pm |
Hi All,
Sorry I've not been posting, but I have been reading. I'm pretty busy getting into my new life! The divorce was final in January and we moved the following weekend to a very comfy little house in the same city so my son can finish out school with his friends. So I'm still unpacking and decorating, hope to be finished within the year! Hehe!
My vent today is the XH. My oldest will be in her third year of college this fall. I paid for her first two years of college. Because my husband at the time refused to pay for a "girl" to go away to college for a "stupid" art degree, when she could easily stay at home and go to a community college for nursing or a cosmotology school. That being said. His company (one of the big three)offers a scholarship to the children of their employees, which she was able to qualify for the last two years. She asked dear ole dad to send her the papers she needed to re-apply. She has applied for financial aid and was awarded some grant money and a deferred loan. But she was also counting on that scholarship to help her out too.
So he emails me (cause he won't talk to me on the phone or in person)that he had to "pay" $500.00 in taxes on that scholarship last year and that if she wants to use it again this year that I should have a turn paying the taxes!!!!! I know that his company adds on additional money to each paycheck then figures the taxes on that. So in a sense the company is really paying the taxes, not him! My brother works for the same company and he is getting the confirmed statement on that for me.
All through our long marriage the bottom line was always about money! Mostly his! So once again he is using money and control to try to get his way! I immediatly emailed him back and basically told him that his little "trick" wasn't going to fly. That he could split my cost of her college education. Which is way more than $500.00.
I am going to give him till Monday to respond to my email then I'm going to call him and tell him that if he is going to play the money game once again and deny his daughter a free scholarship then he is going to be the one to tell her!
Why can't he ever just do the right thing that a "real" father would do for his child? I don't even know why I'm so suprised by this. But I had heard that some fathers became better fathers after a divorce, guess he is another exception to that rule.
Thanks for letting me vent!
e
Sorry I've not been posting, but I have been reading. I'm pretty busy getting into my new life! The divorce was final in January and we moved the following weekend to a very comfy little house in the same city so my son can finish out school with his friends. So I'm still unpacking and decorating, hope to be finished within the year! Hehe!
My vent today is the XH. My oldest will be in her third year of college this fall. I paid for her first two years of college. Because my husband at the time refused to pay for a "girl" to go away to college for a "stupid" art degree, when she could easily stay at home and go to a community college for nursing or a cosmotology school. That being said. His company (one of the big three)offers a scholarship to the children of their employees, which she was able to qualify for the last two years. She asked dear ole dad to send her the papers she needed to re-apply. She has applied for financial aid and was awarded some grant money and a deferred loan. But she was also counting on that scholarship to help her out too.
So he emails me (cause he won't talk to me on the phone or in person)that he had to "pay" $500.00 in taxes on that scholarship last year and that if she wants to use it again this year that I should have a turn paying the taxes!!!!! I know that his company adds on additional money to each paycheck then figures the taxes on that. So in a sense the company is really paying the taxes, not him! My brother works for the same company and he is getting the confirmed statement on that for me.
All through our long marriage the bottom line was always about money! Mostly his! So once again he is using money and control to try to get his way! I immediatly emailed him back and basically told him that his little "trick" wasn't going to fly. That he could split my cost of her college education. Which is way more than $500.00.
I am going to give him till Monday to respond to my email then I'm going to call him and tell him that if he is going to play the money game once again and deny his daughter a free scholarship then he is going to be the one to tell her!
Why can't he ever just do the right thing that a "real" father would do for his child? I don't even know why I'm so suprised by this. But I had heard that some fathers became better fathers after a divorce, guess he is another exception to that rule.
Thanks for letting me vent!
e

Wow.... yuck!
I don't understand why he has a hard time with his daughter bettering herself by being educated because of a measely 500.00. That just seems selfish and stupid.
It feels a little better to get it off my chest. And it is Sunday - and still no reply on my email. He has one more day!
And right you are about being on top. I refuse to let him pull our strings any longer.
e