Saturday

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Registered: 07-01-2006
Saturday
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 7:01pm

UUUhh! Saturday night my sister was having a girls night party--she had a gal come and do sampling and what not of adult things like jammies, glistening powders, scents, toys etc. It was very high class and a really fun get together for the girls. Any how, I dont know how Ex found out where and when i was going (my kids didnt even know all they knew was where), he calls me on my way there and says he going to go over to my house and see whats going on with the kids. I told no, they are fine, Im only going to be gone a couple of hours. He perseeds to call them and start them fighting and what not. He calls me 4 times on cell before i turned ringer off, then he calls my sisters several times and then my mother. He says to her, I dont like the idea of my little girl home alone with 3 boys. (our kids are 2 boys 9 and 10, girl 3--then my sons friend 15 yrs was there too). my moms says where is she. He tells her that i am at my sisters at a sex party and that if she dont get ahold of me he is calling the police to go over to the house. Making this a long story short, he sabataged my night, and i had to go home becouse it was a mad house there. He even told the kids that i was at a sex party and hes calling the police.

How he knew I was even going and any idea of what the party was I have no idea. I know he drives by the house and has followed us a couple of times. It makes me think that he was watching when my sister put extra invites in my mailbox one evening and he checked out what she put in there.

Makes me so mad, he very rarely takes the kids (by the way this was he weekend), I am not suppose to have a life I guess. Looks like I get to look for to having my plans sabataged everytime I go do anything on my own.

Then to top it off, Sunday morning he comes and gets kids for the first time in over a month. one hour later i had to go get our youngest becouse she wanted mommy and wanted to go to her home. She cried for 30 minutes before he called for me to go and get her. The I had to go back later and pick up the other kids.

But that is not the end of it, he started his I love you so much, I want you to come back, please come back, we can work it out, make a list of everything you want me to change and i will change them all. Been there done that, it will never ever happen again. I am no longer in love with him and have no desire to go back. My life is finally getting back on track. So then he says well if you come over once a week and have sex with me then I will take them on Tues and Thurs so you dont have to worry about them when you are at school. Tues and Thurs are the two days that he chose with the lawyers for visitation. I told him it didnt matter becouse if he didnt take them my Mom would.

Begging and phone calls continued through the night. Said he is buying a gun and blowing his head off, becouse he cant live like this. He loves us all too much. I said oh how nice, you would do something that terrible to your kids? That is real dumb, that is something that your kids would have to live with for the rest of there lifes, you would destroy them. I really dont think he would do something like that but i think it is a nasty thing to even say.

AAAhhh! Sorry for long message, needed a little vent.