Scared to start over

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2008
Scared to start over
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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 12:38am

I have just begun the long road to a very sad divorce.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-19-2006
Tue, 06-10-2008 - 2:30am

Hi,

Feel fortunate that at least you've had your children and that they're all grown up. It's very scary, especially that sick to your stomach nauseas sensation caused only my emotions and fear. And the anxiety too. But you sound like you have a good and objective head on your shoulders.

I'm 30, my husband & I after 6 years of marriage are starting the initial stages of divorce. We also will have to stay in our house together until we can sell it. We never had kids, either before we met or since we've been together.

We will be able to get more than we owe, but will probably lose $75,000 we used for towards the down payment. Houses just aren't selling, especially townhouses in Riverside County, CA.... ground zero for the housing market mess. It's also hard, because I want nothing more than to move back to my friends and family in Brooklyn, NY & Central NJ.

I'm an only child of an only child, and it scares me to think that I may never have children. I don't want another serious relationship for awhile and by the time I do I may be 35. It'll be really hard to find a man who doesn't have children and wants to have 1. I can't get pregnant out of wedlock, I will never be the first in my family to do so. I can't imagine being a step-mother and dealing with an ex-wife over visits with children that aren't mine.

It sounds like you gave too much of yourself and spoiled your ex-husband. I wish you luck and hopefully you can cutback on all extras and try to pay extra to the mortgage so you can sell for enough. Do you think your ex can try to sue you for alimony?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 06-10-2008 - 11:48am
Believe it or not, 30 is really young, but then of course, I'm 50.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2001
Tue, 06-10-2008 - 1:55pm

Your sad because it is a sad thing.