second guessing divorce...again!
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|Tue, 06-11-2013 - 10:02am|
I am currently going through a divorce from my husband who Ive been married to for 5 years. We separated numerous times over the past 2 years and Ive moved into my own home 3 separate times. We decided to finally file for divorce in March, and I have purchased my own home. We are about 3 months from finalizing our divorce right now. We are both dating other people, and happy with the person were dating. However, we are both also starting to second guess this divorce, which happens every time we separate. I don't know if these feelings are a normal part of a divorce process or if deep down, we both want each other still. I feel like we both made numerous attempts to make our marriage work and it was unsuccesful. However, at the same time I feel like we made a vow to stay together for better or worse, till death do us part (not divorce do us part). The inital problem that started all of our issues, was that he cheated on me when i was pregnant for our daughter (who is now 3 years old). We had only been married 6 months when i got pregnant, and i was 22, he was 23. He admitted to cheating and said he was sorry and would do anything to take it back. However he still would go out and party a lot, sometimes not coming home at night. Long story short, he slowly made a complete turn around and turned into a loyal husband and good father. But by the time that happened, I was already pushed so far away from him. I would appreciate any advice from fellow divorcees on this problem. I know that ultimately it is my decision - but I just need some insight.