Sending Christmas cards

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Registered: 05-07-2003
Sending Christmas cards
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Sat, 12-03-2005 - 10:17pm

STBX moved out in late May. This is the first Xmas with him out of the house, and I have a question: What to do about sending Xmas cards out? I (like most wives) sent out the yearly Xmas cards, and signed his, my, and the kids' names since 1986. Do I just send to my relatives (I really don't know his distant relatives well at ALL, and a lot of the people on the card list are his parents' friends...)? Do I send to everyone I usually send to, but eliminate STBX's name? He could really care less about sending the cards in the first place, but I'm really not sure what to do. I don't want to just announce in a Xmas card that we're getting divorced.

For the past 2 years, I've been sending a holiday greeting to our storage customers, and this year I signed both our names-- his first & last names, then my first and last names, rather than the usual his first name, my first name, then our last.

What did you do for the cards to relatives / friends?

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Registered: 09-21-2003
Sun, 12-04-2005 - 2:07am
Hi -- I plan to send to my friends and family and just sign my name and my child's name. I figure everyone is going to figure out eventually that we're getting divorced, so I'd just go this route. As for his family and friends, if he doesn't send one, so be it.
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sun, 12-04-2005 - 7:41am
I'm not sending Christmas card! How's that for being a rebel? I will keep them on hand and pass them out at parties that I go to,but that's about it. I work fulltime and I have four kids, I don't want to use my time writing Christmas cards.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 12-04-2005 - 8:07pm

I'd send them to your family and friends... just signing your name with the kids.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-04-2005 - 9:28pm

Hi there...

My first Christmas was separated, but well on the road to divorce... I do picture cards each year and just had them printed Julie and Joey... I sent them to my friends and family, his family I was still close to (my xil's and I have a close relationship still) and any of "our" friends that I was still friends with... it worked out very well... I did get a card from one of his family members that I was not expecting to hear from, so I popped on in the mail to them at that point...

Like someone else said, do what feels right to you...

*hugs*

Julie and Joey