Separation- Confused!!

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Registered: 02-15-2007
Separation- Confused!!
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Thu, 02-15-2007 - 11:41am
Iv been with my husband for approx. 6 years before we got married. Long story short, we have had or ups and downs, however we both agreed that we loved eachother and wanted to get married. Well, I have now been married only one year and I think I am ready for a separation. My husband went through this "what I believe" was a drepression stage where he stopped working for 3 months straight. During this time, we barley talked ever because as soon as I would stress my fustration of the situation we would fight. Because of this, he did not spend Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years or even our 1 Year Anniversary together... He just didnt want to do anything. Though I told him how much he hurt me by doing what he did, all he could say is sorry and it is what it is. Well, he finally just starting working, however he just told me the other day that he has thought seriously and has decided he doesnt ever want kids. He knew its always been a passion of mine to have children, but he has decided that he just never wants kids. He also mentioned that he is thinking of going into the military!! I dont know what to do..I dont even feel like im married anymore!!!! Would a separation be a good idea? We are starting to fade from eachother and I would have to assume that a separation would be best and help us to figure out what we really want anymore... Help??!!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 10:39am

Hey~


It really sounds like he's unhappy with his life.... in lots of ways that really don't have anything to do with you directly, you're just a piece of the picture.


Talk to an attorney to find out what your rights and responsibilities would be with separation vs. divorce... and the timelines that you can be separated, or from filing divorce to it being final.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~