Separation.. does it ever really work??
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| Sun, 07-08-2007 - 8:30pm |
DH and I have been having really bad issues over the past year or so. We have been together for 10 years married for 3 years and have a 8 year old child together. I was so hurt and things got so bad for me, I left and moved back with my parents 2 weeks ago. Now we are 700 miles apart.
The thing is I still love him. I just want him to grow up. That is the majority of my issue. I want him to want to be a family and quit being so selfish. He was there at home, but he really wasn't emotionally. Ya know what I mean? It was like he checked out. He checked out on me and my son. So now I am 27 years old and my son and I are living with my parents.
Does separation ever really work? I miss my husband, I miss the man that I fell in love with. We have been talking on the phone. He is trying to change, and be there for me and our son. I know we both need to work on the relationship to make it work. Has it ever happened? Does separation ever work?

Sometimes a separation can be a real wake-up call dose of reality... but I also tend to think that separations that are geared toward reconciliation work better if you are close enough in proximity to be able to do things to actually help to get things back on track--like see each other or go to counseling together.
My thought with separation (that my EX was begging that we try before we divorced) was that he just wanted a license to do whatever he wanted, not be accountable, why trying to continue to lie and woo me.... but, every situation is different.
It can work, but I think that you have to actively be doing things to try and save it or at this point, since you're already apart and so far apart, it's easy to just toss in the towel... or for one of you to do that.
Good luck!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~