Separation Rights
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| Thu, 11-15-2007 - 5:16pm |
Without going into details about why we're separating and divorcing, I just need to know about the experiences of people here that have been separated.
My husband and I have agreed to separate for 6 months to a year so I can prove to him that I actually want the divorce and am not acting irrational. He has this theory that I'll regret leaving him if I do. So I am scheduled to move out on June 1st, immediately after my daughter is done with her school year in Kindergarten and I'm worried about him not respecting my privacy when I move.
How can I go about letting him know his boundaries once I move without sounding harsh?
How do I demonstrate my intentions for not getting back with him but remain having a good parenting relationship with him without giving him the wrong idea?
Understand, he doesn't believe I know what I'm doing by wanting the divorce, but he has agreed to it. He just feels I should allow some space time before making things official. He says both his previous wives regretted they divorced him and always ended up crying because they wanted him back. That is not the case with me.
I'm new with this separation thing and am not sure what my rights are as far as living at separate residences.

I recommend that you consult with an attorney and see if there is a formal agreement that needs to be in place.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
We actually agree amicably on almost everything concerning our daughter. There are no worries about the financial obligations or visitation. I'm more concerned with the rights of ME. I feel because he is the one being divorced he will pretty much bogart his way into my private life until those divorce papers are final. He even says now that I will still be his wife legally so I better act like it. Which is his way of letting me know that he still has legal rights with me.
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Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~