Separation/custody issues for a 3 yo
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Separation/custody issues for a 3 yo
| Tue, 07-19-2005 - 1:12pm |
I am new here. After many years of a rocky marriage my husband and I decided to divorce. We are trying to be very amicable and continue to co-parent our three year old.
I am looking for advice on how to handle the separation. Has anyone done a transitional move of one parent out of the marital home? So he's gone more and more, but not all of a sudden he's gone? What custody arrangement is appropriate at this time. I have no issues with him as a father, and no concerns about her spending a night or several nights with him -- just at 3 she is relatively mommy-centered.
All thoughts appreciated.

My dd was three when we separated, but we both moved at the same time when we sold our house. Whatever situation you decide on, as long as you talk and you have some kind of plan and are ready for questions your dd might ask (like when will I see daddy again) then she will be fine. My dd was confused at first, children really depend on their routine and we had completely changed hers, but after about 5 weeks she was fine because she knew what to expect, when she'd see dad, when she'd see me, which house she lived in when, etc.
My dd has adapted to be mommy-centered when she's with me and daddy-centered when she's with him. She often will not talk to me on the phone when she's with her dad or vice-versa, because she's focused on the parent she is with, plus I think it reminds her that she misses the other parent and she'd rather not be reminded of that. She just turned 5 and she is doing incredibly well.
I know there are some children's book recommendations on the board webpage. That might help too.