Separations that have worked

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Registered: 12-21-2003
Separations that have worked
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Sun, 08-05-2007 - 6:19pm

Well about 3 weeks ago my husband wanted a legal separation/divorce and now he is ok with us having a general separation. We both have things that happened in our past that we need to deal with through counseling. He wants us to go at this alone and when we are ok then come back together to work on us. I somewhat I agree, but not fully. I don't want to lose him. I love him too much!

Has anyone gone through a separation and it has worked for them. I would love to hear your story.

My heart is breaking!!!!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 11:26am

I think that if you recognize the issues and you are both actively working on them.... then a separation can work.... but if the commitment on either side stops working toward the goal of getting back together, it's not gonna happen.


I just think that with separation, there has to be a lot of trust for it to work.... but it definitely can work.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 01-05-2007
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 4:12pm
I moved away from my husband for two months. It seemed to do the trick. I had been trying to get his attention for the past two years about the problems we were having. He didn't listen. Once I moved out I had his full attention. I have only been back a couple of weeks, but what an improvement.
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Registered: 09-01-2004
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 11:50am

Hi angel. I don't have any advise for you because I'm going through the exact same thing. I just wanted to say that it would be nice to talk with someone with the same issues, I know it would be for me. So if you wanna talk with me that would be great.......

Thanks,
Rhonda