SEPARTION

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Registered: 05-05-2008
SEPARTION
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Mon, 05-05-2008 - 12:08pm

HI , IM GOING THRU A SEPARATION WITH MY HUSBAND OF 4 YEARS. WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 7. WE DID FIGHT AND ARGUE BUT I THOUGHT THAT THINGS WERE GETTING BETTER, AND HE EVEN SAID THEY WERE. HE DROPPED THE BOMB ON ME WHEN I TOLD HIM THAT I DIDNT PASS MY EXAM FOR MY RN CLASS. HE SAID TO GO BACK TO YOUR FAMILY, I CANT TAKE YOUR CRAP WITH SCHOOL ANYMORE. YOU FAIL AND ARE DUMB AND IM TIRED FOR WAITING AROUND FOR YOU. IM IN MY 3RD SEMESTER AND ONLY HAD ONE MORE LEFT TO GRADUATE. HE TOLD ME TO PACK AND LEAVE. THAT HE DOESNT LOVE ME ANYMORE, THAT IM A FINANCIAL BURDEN FOR HIM, HE WANTS MONEY FOR HIMSELF AND THAT I AM OLD (HE'S YOUNGER) AND DOESNT WANT CHILDREN SOON LIKE I DO (EVEN THOUGH 4 DAYS BEFORE THE BOMB HE SAID HE WANTED A BABY AFTER I GRADUATE) HE SAYS HE IS YOUNG AND WANTS TO ENJOY LIFE AND CANNOT BE MARRIED ANYMORE, BECAUSE HE CANNOT HANDLE IT, AND THAT I NEED TO BE OUT OF HIS LIFE. I THOUGHT I WAS A GOOD WIFE TO HIM. I TRIED MY BEST BALANCING THE RN PROGRAM AND HIS DEMANDS, BUT I JUST WASNT ABLE TO FULFILL THEM ON HIS TIME AND REQUESTS. HE DOESNT UNDERSTAND HOW HARD THE RN PROGRAM IS HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO HAVE A SUPPORTING SPOUSE. WELL, HE GAVE ME THE PAPERS TO LOOK OVER AND TOLD ME TO GO TO MY MOM'S AND NEVER TO COME BACK. SO IM WITH MY FAMILY STARTING MY LIFE OVER. NONE OF MY RN CREDITS WILL TRANSFER, SO I HAVE TO START OVER, I HAVE NO MONEY SINCE I WAS TOTALLY DEPENDENT ON HIM. IM JUST HAVING A ROUGH TIME WITH THIS SINCE I DIDNT WANT THIS, AND I THOUGHT WE WERE HAPPY, THIS IS A ONE-SIDED SEPARATION, AND ITS SO HARD TO ACCEPT IT. HIS FAMILY IS UPSET WITH HIM AND SUPPORT ME, BUT WHAT GOOD IS THAT, IF MY HUSBAND DOESNT WANT ME ANYMORE.


ANY ADVICE ON HOW TO DEAL WITH THE PAIN

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: heartbroken76
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 2:59pm

I can really sympathize w/ you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2008
In reply to: heartbroken76
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 8:52pm

THANKS, I SHOULD LOOK INTO THAT ALSO, BUT I DONT FEEL COMFORTABLE GOING BACK TO CALI, I AM BETTER OFF STAYING WITH MY FAMILY. I AM GETTING SOME GOOD OPTIONS HERE ALSO, EVEN THOUGH IT WILL TAKE A YEAR, BUT IT WILL PAY OFF AT THE END, AND I WANT TO DO THIS ON MY OWN WITHOUT HIS HELP. LET THE MONEY HE SPENT ON ME, GO TO WASTE BASICALLY


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2008
In reply to: heartbroken76
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 8:59pm

How very cruel!

It's okay to jump...you have wings! 

To move forward...you have to stop looking back.