Seperation Agreements?

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Registered: 05-08-2006
Seperation Agreements?
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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 10:54pm
I just received the first draft of the seperation agreement. I'd appreciate any advice you have to offer. Was there anything that you didn't include in yours that you wished you had but didn't know enough to ask for? Just as an FYI we do have children. We own our home outright and I plan to buy him out. And, I have a significant amount of assets in my name and he has a significant amount of debt in his name (which I didn't know about until recently).
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Registered: 09-16-2006
Thu, 04-12-2007 - 8:02pm

Hi! My husband moved out in August and we have a separtion agreement. The best thing I did was to look up various websites that dealt with separation/divorce in my state. There was information that was really helpful to me in making sure that I were getting wasn't overlooking anything.

The most important issues were the health insurance and pharmacy bills (all pro-rated, and he has to cover my costs as well until I go full-time in the fall), and the house ( how repairs, etc would be paid for). I was fortuante that he pretty much gave me everything I wanted, but was still good to walk in knowing what needed to be covered.

Also, my agreement is binding- as soon as one of us files for divorce, the separation agreement is filed as the divorce agreemetn. Nothing else will have to be worked out. Good luck!

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Registered: 06-03-2003
Thu, 04-12-2007 - 8:52pm
I am working on a separation agreement right now too. I have been negotiating with my stbxh for weeks and we finally agree on everything (except we have been married 9.2 years and I want to wait for 10 until the final decree, also we don't totally agree on the lawyer fees). He wants a divorce immediately becuase, he had an affair with his soulmate - insert gagging noises- and they want to skip off into the sunset together. I sat with my lawyer for 2 hours yesterday and am just staring at the docs for a day or two reviewing. Will let you know what happens. We are debit free and I am taking the profits from the sale of our home in lieu of alimony with good child support. Sounds like we are in a somewhat similar boat.
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Registered: 08-17-2001
Fri, 04-13-2007 - 9:46am

My advice is....

Don't assume that your STBX will act in a certain way. If you don't want him to have his girlfriend sleeping over when he's got the kids, GET IT IN WRITING, in the agreement. They always do what you never expect.

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie