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|Sun, 12-16-2012 - 11:04pm|
Hi. I am new here. I have been married to my husband for 3 years, and we have been together for 10 years. We have a 8yr old DD and a 21 month old DS. We have had issues for most of our relationship like most people. Ups and downs. About a year and half ago is when things hit rock bottom. I came home after working, I am a RN and work night shift and I found out that my husband had smacked/slapped our son (he was 4months old at the time) because he was crying and wouldnt sleep and my husband had gotten upset and struck him. We took our son to the ER. Long story short he was charged with child abuse. We have been in therapy ever since...individual, family, and couples. We both now see our own therapist and are also being treated by psychiatrists for our own issues. Alot of things have some out since weve been seeing our therapist..His issues as a child, my issues as a child, and his issues with our daughter. He has stated that he resents our daughter because she stole me from him. When she was born he was working 70-80 hrs a week to support us and I was her primary care taker, so we do have a very close relationship. He has never been physically abusive to my daughter or I but he has been verbally abusive, and tends to talk down to my daughter and I. He has gotten much better since he has been in therapy but since he was laid off in June he has been very depressed. He is no where as nasty as he used to be but when he does get in one of his moods I just want to leave and never come back. Im just kind of confused. Lately I have felt like Im not even sure how I feel about him anymore. Ive tried very hard for the last year to work on our marriage but Im just not sure whats left to save. I know I have not forgiven him in my heart for what he did to our son. I just hold this resentment toward him for what he did. I have come close to leaving many times. However this past week I have talked with my parents about moving in with them and I also contacted an attorney. Im just not sure what to do. Im so so so confused. Im just not sure if he can ever be the husband and father I want him to be.