seriously...

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Registered: 06-25-2006
seriously...
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Sun, 02-25-2007 - 5:45pm

I just got back from taking my DD back to the house. (Bkgrd: I moved out last August and took only my personal things, clothes, a place setting of four of the dishes, and a file cabinet that was empty in a spare bedroom. My apartment is furnished, and I bought the other things that I needed.)

We had a HUGE blizzard, and I realized that it would be good for me to have a shovel in my car for those times when I get stuck (like yesterday and today). When I took DD back to the house, the driveway was drifted full of snow (he hadn't cleaned it out yet with the snowblower) so I had to park on the road. (Why did I have to drive her back in a blizzard with my car when he has a 4-wheel drive pickup? It was easier to just do it than to get into an argument about it).

I said that I need to have a shovel for my car. We have FIVE. He offered me the oldest, crappiest rusted metal one. I said no, I need a small plastic one that I can keep in my back seat, LIKE THIS ONE, as I just took a nice plastic one.

It's like he doesn't realize that some day, I am going to get more stuff! This isn't all his. We bought this together. Actually we bought this with my money while he sat on his a$$. It just makes me so MAD. I feel like I'm "stealing" things when I take them from the house, but they're friggin' mine too!!

Anyway, I have a shovel now. :) But it just seems so stupid to have to make this such a big deal.

Oh yeah, and on my way out, he informed me that he just spent $35 in dog food so my share is about $17. We had agreed to share the dog expenses since they are really DD's dogs. However, the last time we bought was before we separated checking accounts, so technically, I bought that one. I am certain that I will pay my half, but after having to nearly BEG for a snow shovel, it just made me so mad that he was asking for this. I held my tongue tho, and said that was fine. I am trying not to be petty because he is being petty. But it is so HARD sometimes!!!

Does this get better? Or am I just going to run out of tongue for biting it so much?

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Registered: 11-04-2006
In reply to: genetixgirl
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 3:34pm
LOL andI hope you understand that I am not LOL at you but at your story and him I just dont understand some men and what their way of thanking is. I would have to say you may run out if you keep bitting it LOL. I wish you the best of luck and god bless you and yours.
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Registered: 06-25-2006
In reply to: genetixgirl
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 11:04pm

Thanks for the support. He is so EXASPERATING. A couple of weeks ago I had my daughter at work with me because she was sick (thankfully, I have my own office and that kind of thing can work). I called to tell him after he got off work that I would just "keep her" if that was OK and bring her back for bedtime that evening. He then said, sure that was fine, just be sure to feed her dinner.

Really? Feed her? Whoa, glad you pointed that out or I would have plumb forgotten to feed my own child.

Little things compared to what some go thru and write about on this board, but sometimes I just need to get it out. :)