settlement offer

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Registered: 10-21-2005
settlement offer
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Wed, 06-07-2006 - 8:59pm

well I finally got the "infamous" settlement offer that was supposed to come 2 months ago.
I guess now he has all his ducks in a row..

I haven't seen the full offer(lawyer says it is a LARGE package)..but she gave me some of the highlights...he is conceding to custody and some of the finer points ..and he is "offering" almost my full mortgage payment for child support (nice since he increased the mortgage right before he left!)...so it all sounds..not great..but pretty good..

so why am I so upset?? I read it ..then called him to clarify some points(?!)why ? I haven't even seen the full offer yet...he got hostile with me (usual) and then I hung up
and then I burst into tears...

I am feeling tired and worn out...working 12 hr and then soccer with the kids (I know boo-hoo for me)..and he cant even bother to show up...called him & he is at a "get together" with girlfriend...

It has been 1-1/2 yrs since he left & I just cant seem to get that this is my life now...
I have to go chase the kids to bed now..

thanks for listening
Annette

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 3:27am
I hope it's just about over for you. I don't quite understand why you would call STBX for clarification. This should be done through attorneys. It's one of the things we hire attorneys for. Talking to STBX about it is kind of a no-no, KWIM?

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Thu, 06-08-2006 - 11:23am


With a schedule like that, you have every right to complain!



I think your reaction was normal. Something like receiving the final settlement papers is a big milestone. It's another indication that things are finally coming to a close. It can be sad, but relieving, too.


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 12:49pm

Hi Annette... Girlfriend, don't even waste your emotions on calling him.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 10-21-2005
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 6:28pm

thanks Christine

I think that is it..that things are coming to a close...I'm just used to the way things are now...him paying & not being here ;o

Just another change....I'm more than sure I am better off...just another change

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Registered: 10-21-2005
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 6:30pm

you are soo right! ..I think I just get stuck with the doing whatever he says..I am going over it carefully & if I dont feel right...I'm going to talk to my lawyer or change it

thanks

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Registered: 10-21-2005
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 6:31pm
I'm not sure why either...it could be that I am just so used to asking him if I am doing the right thing..pffft ..like he would know!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-09-2006 - 2:04am
That's okay. Even after eight years post-separation, I still will occasionally make the mistake of thinking he's a person who can think logically. LOL

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