Sheer Ugliness .......

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sheer Ugliness .......
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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 9:39am

WHEN will it STOP!?!?!?!


This mornings pick up was horrendous. In *front* of our child, he said "You want to F with me & try to get people to testify against me in court?" (he ran into his old boss who 2 months ago told me if i needed him, he woudl be happy to testify to STBX's insanity, alcoholism, etc & i told him that i would give his name to my atty, in case we went to trial - so he is now totally flipped out)

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 10:38am

Wow.. I was hoping that no news..... was good news.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 10:40am
I'm so sorry he's doing this to you in front of your daughter.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 11:00am
Dear God NO! He has been out of the house since he was removed with a RO last Feb. But he does have visitation.

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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 11:01am
Yeah, its typical. He is quiet for a while, till soemthing sets him off. & you are SO right. I swear, NOTHING woudl be be "enough" for him to be happy. HOW did i marry this JERK???
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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 11:59am
The biggest jerks are.... the biggest charmers :-)

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-21-2003
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 12:19pm

Is this deja vu or what? Other than the fact I have only one child, most of what you said could be applied to me. As horrible as it is, I guess this board is necessary so we all know that our husbands are doing basically the same thing and we are not the crazy ones.

Hugs sister --

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Registered: 09-02-2004
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 1:01pm

<> THIS IS SO TRUE!!!!!

My ex is a real Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde type character. His "package" looks perfect but contains a rotten core. Now my real challenge is in not beating myself up for (a) marrying him and (b) letting him get away with it for so long and (c) not leaving the marriage earlier.

Regret is a horrible emotion. I don't regret the marriage, because my kids wouldn't exist without that.

I try to remember that when I ask myself how I could be so stupid as to marry that jerk (actually he was nice at that point in time) and how I could be so stupid as to stay for so long.

Rebecca, none of us is stupid...we were in love once with men who changed for the worse.

Cupcake


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 1:45pm

Hi cupcake...... I knew my marriage was in trouble for 10 years before I left... just 3 years after marrying him.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 5:53pm
(((HUGS))) My heart goes out to you and your daughter. Good luck with the trial.
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Registered: 09-02-2004
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 6:36pm

VERY well said, Karen. I guess my Dr. J/Mr. H was not unique at all...

Now I have to overcome the hurt that ex is apparently willing and able to change some of his personality defects that made me crazy in his second marriage. OR Mr. H is still in "hyding" (lol). OR perhaps new wife is so desperate, she's willing to put up with it like I was.

Man it hurts, sometimes. But I'm still glad I'm free.

It sure helps my mood to get good feedback from you and others on this board.

A million thank you's!!!!
Cupcake

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