Sheer Ugliness .......
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Sheer Ugliness .......
| Tue, 11-08-2005 - 9:39am |
WHEN will it STOP!?!?!?!
This mornings pick up was horrendous. In *front* of our child, he said "You want to F with me & try to get people to testify against me in court?" (he ran into his old boss who 2 months ago told me if i needed him, he woudl be happy to testify to STBX's insanity, alcoholism, etc & i told him that i would give his name to my atty, in case we went to trial - so he is now totally flipped out)


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Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Thanks everyone - I am just going to do one repsonse to all, if thats ok.
Rlch - I have read your posts for quite awhile, and I really admire the way you think, and how you care for your DD! You have been dealing with Stbx for a long time, and he has been out of the house for a long time... I'm sorry but I would have thought you'd have a better handle on this by now. Really sorry, this is just one woman's opinion.
When he started in, you lept to his bait. While your DD looked on. I'm not telling you anything you don't already know. When he started in, the proper response was, "our daughter is here. We cannot discuss this."
When he tried to escalate, you should have said, "not now." And when he turned to his DD and tried a play for her sympathy, you took a big risk by also addressing your DD to contradict him. A GAL might look VERY POORLY on that. He put her in the middle, but then... you KEPT HER THERE. She was the rope, and each of you took and end, and started yanking. Ouch. If this conversation gets brought out in Court, the Judge is pretty likely to want to slap your hand, as well as Stbx's. "He started it," is no excuse.
Yes, I did leep to the bait. THIS time. I cannot TELL you how many times i havent. Literally, almost every time i see him, he starts in. 80% (or more) of the time i do what is right, i tell him "we arent discussing this", "call your atty", etc.
Also, my I had my atty say that he could not have our dd around anyone of the opposite sex around my daughter unless it is a relative and then she also named the OW too. I was thrilled about that. If he drinks or gets caught with the OW in front of my dd he loses all custody. It was a good day! but I know it is going to get a lot worse before it gets better.
Just keep sticking to your guns. You are doing the right thing taking care of your dd. If we don't who will. Sounds to me like you are a strong woman! Stay strong
: ) Lisa
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