Shocking update on GF spanking DD

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Registered: 03-03-2006
Shocking update on GF spanking DD
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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 7:49pm

XH left GF and moved in with his sister!!!!

Don't get me wrong - I am happy that I don't have to worry about how my DD feels. XH tried to tell me all the reasons that he needed to move out and I interrupted him and said I don't care about all that, I ONLY CARE that my DD can still see her dad and that I DON;T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT MY DD being "bullied."

DD and I had convo today about that no matter how much she wishes that mommy and daddy will NEVER get back together and she said "Mom I know that because my dad makes you puke in your mouth when you see him."

HA! Well its better than me telling her I HATE YOUR DAD'S FRICKING GUTS!!!

DD was wondering all this time when she might be able to see him and now she seems at ease.

I am still going through with my meeting with my friend / social worker to forward to Friend of the Court because knowing my XH he can't be alone for long and I am sure he will go running back .......I want it documented.

Thanks everyone for their input/suggestions.

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Registered: 11-25-2003
Wed, 09-05-2007 - 12:10pm

Hey there nefer-tt,

Is there any chance you could press charges against the GF (presuming XH is still pisses off at her)?

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Registered: 03-03-2006
Wed, 09-05-2007 - 12:57pm

At this point I don't know. I am defintely turning into my Friend of teh Court for record in my case. At this point even though I know my DD is NOT lying and my X seems to in a round about way tell me exactly how my DD describes it, it is only she said he said.

I have asked my DD without just shoving it down her throat to tell me exactly (again she is only 7) and she will same the same with just a pulling of the hair here, spanking here, but the main thing is when she said this time she picked her up by the arm and threw her into the couch then "jumped at her" and my DD had to tried to jump out of the way and fell to the ground hurting herself. I have never seen bruises or marks of any kind when she comes back. I just know that this last time it made me sick to think about what my baby has been through and X always conveinently not being around when the episodes took place.

But believe me I know this court system and kids saying this and that (even when it is true)what do I have to do on it. My X I know won't go into a court house to defend his DD when he has a warrant for not paying for her.

what were you thinking that I should try to pursue it? I just want to see if we can work it out this way -- they aren't married. He said he wouldn't marry her (said this to my DD right in front of GF). I don't think he and she will last anyway and if they do it will be up and down just like it has been for 3 years. he and I were together for almost 18yrs and it was up and down even without our DD in the picture yet.